Is it possible to be friends with a former crush?

its definitely possible, ive done it. But you have to be certain the feelings are gone before you head into friendship.

 

Short answer - yes, it's possible.
Long answer - it's a very individual and personal thing. Some people become friends after being in a full-on relationship. After a serious (hetero) relationship I was in, we tried to be friends and get together casually, but every time we did I felt like we were breaking up all over again. It just didn't work for me.
I think you need to ask yourself if hanging out with this person helps your well-being, or not.

 

I agree with the above that it’s possible, but personal. I’ve maintained friendships with past partners and crushes, but I had to maintain space for a while. After that, I maintain certain boundaries. But I think it’s possible.

 

Well, I'm in love with my best friend (she doesn't know), so I would say it's definitely possible.
(I do think you should be honest with your husband about these feelings you're having though)

 

Seems like she might be a bit of a player. If you can stay firmly on the friend side it shouldn't be a problem but it kinda feels like you might want more than that?

 

You can always be friend with your former crush as long as set aside your feelings to that person.

 

I read this as you're still open to something happening if she changes her mind.... I don't mean to "mind read" but i worry that if you are still holding onto feelings for her it could easily lead to trouble down the road if she's kinda flirty or likes to string you along. If you can fully close the door on the romantic stuff you can be in a place of control. I know I'm coming at this a little ... black and white.. I just know from my personal life that yes you can be friends even close friends but if you still have romantic feelings towards them it will cause problems. You can always address them as they pop up but something will pop up :/

 

That's the spirit, and it's ok to respond to her being flirty, respond don't react.
About the hubby part, you've had a gf in the past so would he not take it well if you had a new one?

 

Good luck, these things can be tough. I have a book i no longer need i could send lol. I bought a book on poly relationships when I thought that's what was happening in my life. I read the first 5 pages before finding out that my wife didn't want any kind of poly relationship. It's called.."
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships Paperback – May 1, 2008. 4.5 stars on amazon and i've seen it come up on some of the poly sites i looked at.

 

If it’s a coworker, then yes, boundaries are so important. I was in a similar situation, actually, and told the person we couldn’t interact for X amount of time. After I moved on, we don’t communicate outside working hours since it was a mutual attraction and they’re in a relationship. We also don’t talk about certain things out of respect for one another.
It’s incredibly hard, but just as you said, said boundaries have to be clear and enforced. They’ll actually diffuse any anxiety you may have because you’ll know what you expect of yourself and this girl.

 

Yes, it's possible and I've done it as well.

Oftentimes, it's about how much shifting you've done, especially considering the OP's listed sexual orientation. If you're both in the friend zone zone with respect to each other at this point, it's very possible. Not only that, you'll need to have things in common to keep the friendship going. One of my best friends today is someone I had had several experiences with when young, but it wasn't a crush.

If the playing field is not equal, where one might still be attracted to the other and it's not reciprocated, it's probably not possible. On top of that, if there are big differences in how you view relationships and sexuality, even though you have a lot of things in common, that could be a problem, too. These point to big differences in values. If you want to look at situations where one partner or spouse supported Trump and the other did not, this alone caused some couples to separate. I was just using that as an example.