I've been anxious for one month - christmas holidays included - seriously planning to come out to my father and never succeeding to. So I folded a piece of paper in two and wrote on the external side: SIT DOWN PUT DOWN THE GLASS and on the internal side: I AM A GUY AND I'M CALLED DANIEL AND THAT'S WHY I ASKED FOR A HEADSHRINK I might put this paper in the pocket of his jacket the day after tomorrow (sounds so apocalyptic) before I leave all day for university lessons. What do you think? This must be the silliest way to come out ever. Despite the silliness, it was really hard to write every single one of those few words.
It doesn't matter if it's silly or not, what matters is 'will it work'. You should come out when it's right for you and in a way that is right for you. I really hope it goes well for you. It is understandable that writing those few words was super difficult, coming out is a very scary thing. Daniel, everyone here is wishing you the best of luck and you have a lot of support on this forum.
Daniel, don't worry, there's no bad way to come out. Everyone does it differently, and that's because everyone, and everyone's situation, is different. Some people prefer to come out to people face to face, some do it over the phone, or by text, or email, some write a letter, or make a facebook post, and some make little notes and stick them in thier dad's coat pocket. The important thing isn't weather it is good or bad way to do it. The important thing is if it will work or not, and if it's right for you. I can't coment on that. I don't know you, or you dad, or how you two get along. I can't make that call, only you can, so if you feel that's the right way to do it then go ahead. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
So, that day came and I used the piece of paper. When I got back home, everyone was behaving like nothing happened. xD Then my father's wife went to sleep, and my father came in the room and said: "Can you explain me this thing on the piece of paper?" And I said: "There's not that much to explain". He said: "Just not now, I'm tired". So days have passed and now he's in control about when to talk about it. Which is to me the most anxiety provoking aspect of coming out. He uses my birth name as if nothing happened. And I wait wait wait wait...
