Feel like a lesbian....but have a boyfriend.

Hey welcome to EC. I know it's really frightening and scary to be questioning and in this situation but I'm sure we can help you figure things out.

What makes you think you won't be able to find a woman?

 

I kinda feel the same, I woke up from a confusing dream and the first questions that came to mind were: "Wat if I finally get girl-on-girl action, but then feel unsatisfied?!" ... "wat if it turns out to not being worth it?!"....but "will I ever even experience a woman?!" And "wat if my urges are just fantasies... do I only just like the idea of doing it but not actually doing it?!"

 

Hey I'm sorry you are struggling too. I think it's really common to doubt that what you feel in your mind won't be the reality but I rarely here this actually coming true. When I was first coming to terms with my sexuality one of my biggest fears was what if I come out and realise I'm wrong, but eventually I got to the point where I was like, ok what if that happens, worst case scenario. Ok it will be disappointing and confusing and take a bit of explaining perhaps, but you won't have lost anything and deep down I think it's unlikely.
Someone on here once said and I truely believe they are right. You have to listen to your inner whisper, it isn't normally very loud but if you listen to what it's saying and it feels right inside then it probably is.

 

Thank you

 

No worries. If you ever want to chat you can always post on my wall.

 

It is hard to figure things out sometimes :<

Perhaps you could tell him your orientation? If you enjoy his company ask to stay friends, if you wish to do more then do so. It is okay to be afraid of trying something new, as long as it does not interfere with you actually doing it I wish you luck!

 

I'm literally in the same boat right now. I've been dating a guy for two years, and I'm wondering if I'm a closeted lesbian. I have maybe a solid 15% sexual/physical attraction to him, and I'm only with him because I don't want my cats to get depressed because "daddy" is gone. :'(

I find myself daydreaming of cute short girls all day, and it's even popping up in my dreams too. idk wht to do aaaaaaaaaaaa

 

Hey, nobody can tell you what you feel or what to do but it's worth considering how you really feel about this guy. It's easy to temporarily try and quieten the voices by filling the void in your life with an opposite sex partner sometimes rather than face the truth about your sexuality but long term that's a difficult path to tread.
Have you ever been with a girl?

 

You may not be in the majority but that doesn't mean there are none. Maybe there are other sitting like you are now thinking the same things.

 

I've talked to my boyfriend before about being in a polyamorous/polysexual relationship and he said no((he says its immoral and basically cheating which is lame)), so I can't just go get with a cute girl for a day and test my feelings, you know? I'd really have to change my whole life, move out, break up, etc.

And I dated two girls in high school. We didn't do anything more than kisses, but I do remember really liking it. They were thots back then and uhh kinda both cheated on me but I can't blame them, they both left me for the hottest girl in school, so I wasn't really even mad. Either way, I've never *romantically* been with a woman or had *bedroom fun* with a woman before, only had a few makeouts and kisses.

 

I know that this may seem like stupid advice, but honestly, just listen to your heart and don't worry too much.

 

I wouldn't blame your boyfriend, I have no issues with poly relationships but I know I couldn't be in one.
Do you really think you need to test your feelings? What do you think the chances are that your feelings are wrong?

If it wasn't for your feelings for women do you think you would be perfectly happy in your current relationship?