The tuxedo..

I gave it some thought, but i'm not coming up with much. If you have your own inflow of cash, you could just go rent one with your own money, maybe change at a friend's house instead of at home.

If you live someplace with a larger LGBQ presence or not in the bible belt or the south, you might convince her you would be more comfortable wearing a tux or suit than the usually more skin revealing dresses. I only thought of that after remembering a meme with a photo of porn stars showing less skin at their awards show than the actresses at the Oscars or music awards...

Renting a tux is cheaper than a prom dress, you could always appeal to the saving money part.

Make one out of duct tape... I don't know if they still do, but the company that makes the tape actually gave some kids scholarships to college. I don't think it was substantial but hey free money to further your education is free money.

That's all I got, maybe someone else could chime in with something better.

 

So I looked after typing and it is still a thing.

http://stuckatprom.com/

 

I was thinking If you told her already and her answer was because she doesn't want to corrupt her kids , then I think the wearing a tuxedo doesn't affect it because her kids at not going to see you, they are not going to your prom -only YOU are going with YOUR friends . so,maybe make thst point to her~

good luck ! just stick your ground and show her your perspective and how you feel.

and if for prom , you have family photos , and they don't want to explain, when.asked why not in a dress?
just explain it's because you feel most comfortable in this tux , it makes you feel comfortable, (to a kid: just like how your favorite color or favorite toy,you prefer, it's the same feeling, I pick this style over the dress ) something like that..

 

either that or you can kinda lie and say I want to go prom shopping with my friends only, so your mom gives you the money and plan that day to sleepover your friends

watch how she reacts -if she disagree and say she wants to come and say " wanna see my daughters special moment go her speical day, can either say it's not cool mom, no teenager wants their mom interrupting
or talk to her about compromise
maybe if a dress makes her happy bc dres is the tradiotion , borrow a dress from cousin or past down prom dress you can wear for pictures only with family for pre prom party
and then buy the tix for actual arrival of prom .
haha I dk.these are just scenario

 

My pleasure darling,
I think what would help is set aside a time , where you and her are just alone , like a movie date with your mom , and educate her what transgender is and what it means to be transgender , for you.

There's a documentary interview on Caitlyn Jenner, coming out as trans- you can find it on YouTube

I think it's a great material to show your mom bc they have part where points out
there's scientific evidence of trans is real, not a phase , hormomes , signals get mixed when developing in the womb.They also have a part where
they interview parents who has the same concern as what your mom is saying, but concluded that learn to accept each other.
Children don't care about gentials of the sex of your gender, what's it's about love in the heart, soul.Love is not a visible thing.
Tell your mom you understand its diffcult , and maybe shes scared of the unknown part of these changes , but tell her you and her will get thru it and figure it out together, that if she's by side, in support ,you wouldn't have to go thru this journey alone.
Stay true to You, Keep Pushing& Rock On!
xoxo, Winnie

 

This is The Link , set aide time ,watch it with your mom, as it helped me gain a deeper understanding of how transgender people feels