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I need help now!

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Emilya, Jan 15, 2018.

  1. Emilya

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    I came out to my mom today. I told her I was trans, and she supports and accepts me, but apparently my dad isn't a big supporter of lgbtq stuff, and I didn't know this before. Now my mom is making me tell him by Friday, and my mom is making me go to a family therapist so she can figure out how to best help me. She also doesn't believe I'm trans. Idk what to do! It's a nightmare!
     
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    Are they religious?
     
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    No, not at all. I'm completely fine with the therapist btw, but what's bothering me about it is that I have to see the therapist with my parents as well. I feel like that defeats the purpose of a therapist. I really want to see the therapist too, but they kinda ruined it for me. It's been a day, and my mom is coming out of shock, and she's doing a bit better, and now i don't have to tell my dad until Sunday, after I go to an lgbtq support group, but I still have to tell him! I'm so emotionally spent, all of my courage was used to tell my mom, I just don't know what to do. I have cried far too much recently, and I can't even cry anymore!
     
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    Do you have family dinners? Idk. Maybe you should tell him during his vacation time so he can process it better.
     
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    maybe the first session or two with family is good, I'm sure she just wants to be on the same page. after a few sessions ask your mom if you can maybe try some on your own and explain the benefits. Maybe your mom knows the therapist might give a better understanding to her and your dad. Just tell your dad the same way you told your mom. However he feels about it does not reflect who you are as a person. Facing your parents with any type of news that you feel they might look down upon is very frightening. Be brave