L word

I'm assuming you're referring to the words "lesbian" and "dyke"? For me, it just took time and a lot of soul searching. There were times I was good with it, there were times I hated myself for it. Honestly, right now is one of the times that I'm hating everything about myself. If you don't want to, you don't have to put a label on yourself. You've got to figure out what makes you comfortable.
If a word has always had a negative connotation as a child, its likely that it will always make you uncomfortable. Therefore, you may need either "desensitize" yourself or find another term that you are comfortable with, or decide not to label yourself.
It may be a good idea to see a therapist if that's an option for you.

 

Remember the old saying - “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me”. It’s as true today as it always was. I’m lesbian. I don’t have any problems being described as that but I took a long time to discover that. How do you describe yourself in relation to your sexuality (if you do)? Start with that and talk to your closest friends. Ask how they see you. You may find that they are far more comfortable with the L word than you are. That might help you.

 

I totally am with you I don't like being called a lesbian. Id much rather be referred to as gay, or I'll say I'm gay. I'm not A anything, if anyone can understand that. Being called A lesbian just sounds so foreign , like your already being put in a certain box , when really being attracted to the same sex is only part of who I am.

 

I thought you were talking about the TV show. Did you hear about the reboot?

 

I think negative association with the word lesbian is actually much more common than you would think. I think the more comfortable you become in your own skin the less it will bother you. I would probably use the word gay to describe myself but if someone used lesbian I wouldn't be offended.