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What if someone used the wrong pronoun?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Elliot Kim, Jan 1, 2018.

  1. Elliot Kim

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    She
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    Hello. I know that this might be an easy question for some of you guys but what if a family member/friend used the wrong pronoun? Then what?
     
  2. BradThePug

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    For me, I'd usually pull them aside later and have a conversation about it. The key with this approach is to be calm and non accusatory. Otherwise, they will become defensive and mad at you.
     
  3. Aberrance

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    It depends on who it is but I either correct it just by saying "he" until they apologise and change it or if I'm feeling too drained or it's in an uncomfortable circumstance then I'll ignore it and just feel internally shit about it.
     
  4. newts

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    I just feel bad for a little while, but I don't ever say anything to correct people. I don't like conflict much, or drawing attention to my trans status.