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LGBTQ-related New Years resolutions?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Rana, Dec 27, 2017.

  1. Rana

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    With the New Year celebrations and resolutions ahead, I was just wondering how many of you have resolutions involving anything that has to do with your sexual orientation.

    For instance, my resolution is to get out of my comfort zone and get involved with LGBTQ groups that are local for me. I came out to myself in early 2017, and most of the year has been coming out of the emotional storm related to coming to terms with my sexuality. I finally feel I'm on solid ground with myself and my sexual identity. So, it seems the next logical step is to build the LGBTQ community that I desperately need in my life. That's my 2018 resolution.

    What about you?
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  2. Jaiiden

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    My resolution is to be more open with my sexuality.
     
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    I have also though that 2018 would be a good time to get back involved with some of the groups I have enjoyed in the past. They are mostly outdoors groups.
     
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  4. Rana

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    It's funny, a lot of the groups I want to join do a lot of outdoor stuff too.
     
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    At some point in 2018 I would like to finally tell my parents/family that I am engaged and we plan on eloping to get married b/c we don't want a large ceremony. They know I am gay and have a girlfriend (well, I'm not sure if my brother does), but we've been engaged for almost a year, and I haven't told them that.
     
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    sounds like it is okay to tell them

    I think it sounds nice to get married and elope instead of a huge wedding
     
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    I agree with @TrevinMichael about eloping. I think I would love that too.
    For me the hard part will be coming out to my super-homophobic family.

    You're already out to your family so the hard part is over. Is there a reason you haven't mentioned your engagement? Do you think they won't approve of your partner?
     
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    I agree with you all about not wanting a big wedding. Do you think your family will mind? Years ago, my mum told me that if I ever wanted to elope then just do it and don't worry about what anyone else might think. I've never done it, but I must come across as the type to elope.

    As for my resolutions, I want to work towards feeling that I have ownership and control over my own life. I imagine that my sexuality may feature in there somewhere, but we'll see how it goes.
     
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    Ive been realizing lately that I rely too much on drugs and alcohol, I will ween myself off of that and maybe try to get a boyfriend. Building a support system with people rather than drugs is my goal.
     
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    That's a cool idea
     
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    I'll try to get out of my comfort zone and be more open about my sexuality.
     
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    i don't make resolutions, haven't for about 30 years. I have set goals, with the realization that the plan is subject to change. my biggest goal for this year is to come out and live full time as Sarah. other goals include finding a new job in the city, and moving /buying a house in said city. or nearby.
     
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    the coming out was planned early this year and the move was in the past couple months.
     
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    My 2018 is going to bring so many changes. Recently out of a long-term relationship, I feel almost like I'm coming out all over again. I can't believe at almost 40 years old I'm going to try dating again. Seems crazy! But I know people go through this at all ages. Other 'resolutions' include getting healthier, being more active, getting back into music, working on my home...and so much more. I'm excited about the possibilities!!
     
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    Oh and I really need to stop getting feelings for unavailable women lol...
     
  16. Rana

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    Oh yes, I can relate to this! I need to add that to my list for sure!

    And as for the dating over 40 (or 41 in my case), I know it feels odd sometimes. Since coming out to myself about a year ago, I've somehow started to see dating as a beautiful part of life whereas I used to see it as a means to an end which was being in a serious relationship.
    Now, it feels like part of a continuum, like part of one's life journey, so I've been more relaxed about it.
    I can't explain why this sudden shift in perception came about the same time I was coming out to myself, but it did. I wish a beautiful journey for all of us. ❤️
     
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    Try to get used to being lonely? Ever since I started dating guys 3 years ago, it never worked. Guess I better get used to being alone... and who knows, maybe things will change someday.
     
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    Sigh .. goals .. not necessarily "resolutions";
    - Finalize my divorce;
    - Work on keeping a healthy relationship with my kids;
    - Have a better control on my emotions;
    - Evaluate my life so far and set realistic future goals for my future relationship possibilities;
    - Build a solid network of friends.
    All seem so generic and theoretical but they are most relevant to me especially at this stage.
     
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    talk to me sister, there's a guy I really like who is just not into me, more than a friend.
     
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    all goals I had a few short years ago. you can do it and grow in the process.
     
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