Hi guys. I've been away for a while. And in that time I've come to terms with who I am. Im lesbian . And that's great I'm happy with who I am there is one problem.I have been talking to this guy and we have both been very honest with each other and are very supportive in anything . The thing is we have both fallen for each other and want each other it's not sexual it's more a mind to mind soul mate connection . How can we have such a connection when I'm lesbian. Am I something different. I'm really confused please HELP
if it's not sexual then you needn't be confused i think. I mean for me it's quite normal to have feelings for a guy if you are so close to each other even if you are a lesbian. I also have a friend who is really close to me but even with all the love, i feel for him , there is nothing sexual. I know it's nothing more than real friendship. Did he show you that he wants you to be more than his friend ? and what about you ? do you imagine yourself with him in any situation other than friends ?
Yes he is in love with me. I'm not so sure about me. I love talking him when I get up before I go to sleep miss him when we're apart. I got jealous over him the other day. We can turn each other on . Would I have sex with him I don't know I might depends on what I felt like at the time
He mentioned that he to talk to this other person and my jealousy hit the roof thought he was 'seeing' someone else when we aren't a couple or anything I was very jealous thought I would lose him
oh! I understand . Maybe you don't want him to share what you two have with someone else. Have you been attracted to any girls recently?
Does he know that you (mostly) date and crave women? I think every gay person is allowed a few exceptions.
I've been a similar situation before back in my teens. It's fine to be in a strictly platonic relationship with him, but if there's more that you BOTH want then give it a shot if it feels right, don't think about sexuality and just be you. Since after all rare exceptions do happen to some and usually has more to do with you being attracted to the person themselves rather than what's in their pants.
I heavily agree with LucasCain. It seems like you two have found something special that might even surpass your sexuality. I'd say explore and it see how it goes. With how close you are, it sounds like you two could still remain friends even if you discover a romantic/sexual relationship isn't right for you
Still thinking about this... lol... but here's a scenario to consider... So let's say you have a heterosexual female friend who has never questioned her sexuality. Never had lesbian fantasies or anything at all. But all of a sudden another woman comes into her life and she discovers an amazing connection and tells you she thinks she may actually be in love with this other woman but she doesn't have any sexual attraction to her... what would your advice be then? I'm assuming you'd suggest she go for it and give love a chance, right? It's the same thing Dear. Don't let a label prevent you from experiencing a beautiful thing. Good luck!
Never thought it that way before. But I guess ur right everyone is obsessed with labels these days . I will just take day but day and see what happens
