Am i Trans?

Hi Sota. Ultimately no one but yourself can tell you if you are trans or not. A lot of the things you are describing are gender expression stuff, which can be a sign that you are trans, but there are lots of individuals out there who identify as female but would still align themselves with a lot of your points. Figuring out your gender comes from an internal sense of self. Its a feeling, but its really hard for most people to pinpoint or describe. But really there's no way to diagnose trans-ness from a person's experiences or gender expression. There are no boxes to check off to determine a person as trans. Simply because theres such a huge variation in trans experiences. Although many people do explore clothing and such to reaffirm/explore their gender. Also sexuality does not define someones gender. What I mean is, not all trans guys like girls. (You don't have to like girls to be a boy.) If you like the idea of people calling you a guy, then yea you might be trans. You said that you imagine yourself as a guy in your mind, thats important too. Long story short if you feel like a boy then you probably are. Especially if you think about your gender often. Good luck

 

For me, the one thing that helped me come to terms with my answer is this:
How do you see yourself in the future if the option to either transition or easily pass as a male was attainable?
And are you happier in their future after?

For me the answer was always yes, and eventually it came down to the idea of living my life as a female for the majority of it drove me to extremes.
Counselors are available for transgendered people as well, and it may be a benefit for you to look into one since they can help you get your thoughts sorted out about it.
Best of luck in your journey!

 

Just wanted to say good luck with everything! My family is Serbian but my immediate family and I live in Canada. Glad I live here. Still haven't come out to anyone so I'll see how that goes down with my parents...

 

Experiences differ greatly for everyone. However, what you described sounds like textbook signs that you're trans.

 

Definitely sounds like you may be trans! Look into it and see if there's any resources for you.
I know here after a certain point of HRT or through a psychiatrist sex on legal documents and you have to file for a name change, which can be done for the right about of money (which for my area is 300$)
If you don't see a future for yourself maintaining a female identity, you should definitely take the measures you need to. First step is definitely accepting and embracing!

 

Yea its important to remember that all countries are different when it comes to legally recognizing transgender people. Definitely look into support groups and resources specific to where you live, make sure you're safe before you come out to people, and it always helps to find and learn about others online or anything who have gone through the legal process in your country/location.

Aside from what gets a person legal recognition, don't feel pressured to change anything about your body that you don't 100% want to do. A lot of places in the world don't recognize a trans person's gender identity unless they go through invasive (and expensive!) surgeries first. Including some states in the U.S. So if you feel like it, make a list of the things you would do to make yourself happy with your gender identity / gender expression. Thats what I did to figure out what kind of surgeries I might want and what kind of alterations that I don't want. If surgery is something you can't imagine happening at this stage in your life then make a list of things you can do with your gender expression to make you happy with your body right now.

 

Hi! I read your opening post with great interest, I feel like I could’ve written it myself. I’m lesbian, born female.

Like you, I rarely wear makeup (my job means I have to), I don’t own dresses and would scream as a kid if my mum put me in one. I hate the colour pink. I buy men’s shirts because I like that they don’t tailor to my curves. I lift weights and have a muscular body. I have short hair which is shaved underneath. I hate chick-lit, rom-coms and prefer action and horror. I drink whisky and beer. My friends growing up were boys because I preferred running about outside and playing video games. I play sports. Most people call me by the masculine shortened version of my name. I hate clothes shopping unless it’s for sports gear. I love women. I’m not a soft fluffy person and can be very detached and logical. I’m not maternal in the slightest and the thought of being pregnant doesn’t sit well with me, and I don’t want kids. I also usually hold the door open, but because I think it’s good manners.

I could go on and on, but you get the idea.

I don’t identify as male. I’m a woman who doesn’t adhere to social stereotypes just because I happen to be born a girl. I couldn’t tell you what if feels like to be ‘female’ because it would appear that nothing of my interests and appearance comes across as female on paper.

I don’t know how old you are, or if that would even factor in, but I’m in my late 30s, and growing up we didn’t have such an emphasis on gender. I was a tomboy, and pretty much still am. We were just left to get on with things and what we liked was what we liked, there was no gender importance attached to things. I don’t know what if feels like to figure out you’re trans, but my thoughts would have been it was a physical thing rather than performative.

I’m not sure if any of that helped, but honestly to me you just sound lesbian. Like others have said, it’s down to you to truly know yourself, and I wish you all the best in that.