Catalyst here...maybe. Advice?

I'm not saying she for sure does have feelings for you, sorry I probably shouldn't have said anything about that.

 

Cuz you are a rockstar human like that! That’s why I like ya! I HATE games! I love that you were you even though it may have come at a price. Integrity is hard to find these days. I know you are hurting, and I am still very proud of you!

 

I don't think that you are far from it as you think. You are such an amazing person, you will work your way through this and I'm sure you will remain great friends because you will always do the right thing. I truely believe if things are meant to be they will be in there own time as long as you just keep doing the right thing. There are so many girls who would love to be the centre of your attention.

 

I totally get that! Being nice and thoughtful is important too. It’s just that sticking to your guns and being who you are even though it’s a little uncomfortable is important to do. No need to take down casualties to do it though I totally understand!

 

Hi Woodswomn, I just wanted to say sorry you didn’t get the response you were looking for but I think having that difficult conversation was very brave. I was in a similarish situation although I was more in your friends position and me and the woman I liked were both in relationships. Anyway if I had been able to have a conversation similar to yours a think it would have saved me a lot of heartache so I hope that it has saved you that, at least. These types of situations could go undefined for long enough. The boundaries of the friendship were unclear to me. As you say the line was getting blurry.

I hope that you are able to remain friends and I’m sure there are lots of women out there who would be lucky to have you For what it’s worth im sure she does have some feelings for you but is unable or unwilling to pursue them any further at the moment.

 

Woodie, (pardon the presumptuous chumminess!) what you did was like running a 10k: you might feel (emotionally) pretty exhausted, hard to "walk" (whatever the analogy would be) but the next time (oh yes there will be more) you will be stronger. Everything is practice for the next thing!

And anyway, you have the insight to realize that you might be a catalyst. That was a novel (around here) perspective and first caught my attention. Now you're a necessity around here. I hope this story continues (with no heartbreaks), maybe takes an unexpected fork in the road, and arrives at that nice young lawyer (vet/teacher/writer) you need to meet.

Oh and let me just agree with many others in this thread, that there is something there, you weren't/aren't imagining things. She may be scared, now suddenly realizing she can't have her cake and eat it too. (Did I really phrase it that way? Bad octopus.)