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is my size a problem?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by massimo, Nov 24, 2017.

  1. massimo

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    i'm really embarrassed to put this in here :flushed:.
    so since i accepted myself as gay, i started to meet with other guys and i always felt that i'm a top ( i just don't like it to have a guy touching my "behind" ) but i discovered a problem and that's my size down there it's not acceptable to be a top ( 4.7 inches = 12 cm ) :cry::cry::cry::cry: some guys insult me for this.
    what should i do? i know there isn't any medicine and surgery is a bad idea.
     
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    Heya,

    12 cm sounds pretty average.

    If someone insulted you because of this, that person is a jerk, and doesn't deserve your attention. Simple as that. First, because no one deserves to be insulted, even if you had a uncommon condition. Second, because that's not even your case - again, 12 cm is not outside of the "expected length". Take a look at this graph

    You can also check this paper: "Am I normal? A systematic review and construction of nomograms for flaccid and erect penis length and circumference in up to 15 521 men", by Veale et al. (2015)

    In other words, your problem doesn't seem to be your size, but the people you are having sex with. Don't listen to them - someone that doesn't respect you isn't worth of your time.

    On a side semi-unrelated note (but worth remembering): Use condoms :wink:
     
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    There are guys that will criticize someone’s dick size, regardless of how long it actually is.

    In other words, you can’t make everyone happy.

    I personally would not like a dick size too big (it just gets too difficult for oral, for example). The people that make fun of something out of your control aren’t the ones you should be hanging around with.

    Just know that there are people who really don’t mind about dick size.
     
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    thank you guys for the advice i had this stuck in my head for a while. when i saw the graph i was like thank god i'm near average :blush: .

    safe sex for me is a must i have always used condoms :wink: .
     
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    Porn AJ's done everyone a huge disservice because it leads us to believe that a 7 or 8 inch erection is 'average'. It isn't. It's an outlier, as the graph shows.

    As others have said, anyone who gives you crap isn't someone you want to be with.
     
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    My penis is about 4.5 inches and ive pretty much accepted it. I would like to try something for penis extension but its really expensive and results are usually about an inch to an inch and a half so it wouldn't give us small guys huge dicks or anything but I think it would be fun to try sometime. Also I've seen on some of the amateur porn of guys with smaller penises that there's people in the comments that say they love smaller guys, I'm not sure if they mean it in a demeaning way or if its some kind of kink for them but at least we know there is people out there that like the less endowed.
     
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    Sorry if it posted twice. My phone service is acting up. You have nothing to worry about. Others have mentioned about porn and over exaggerating. Every penis is different. I don't care about it's size. Don't worry about you. What I find funny is flaccid vs hard. My buddy and I are the same size rock hard but he is 3 times bigger flaccid. Seriously dont have any worries
     
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    I've always considered what someone can do for me in bed to be far more important than penis size. So if you're worried about your size, work harder to hone your skills. Turn nay-sayers into converts with your mad skills, yeah?
     
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    Mad skills babyboy. Mad skills
     
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    Thank you so much for the reply's :slight_smile:
    i will try to be more selective with the guys i meet up with, for the skill part i need a lot of training :flushed: i always do my best to make it fun and pleasurable.