guilty of incest

John,

If you are both consenting adults, then I don't see the issue, as I understand it the cousin is old enough to consent under your laws.

You are two men who've explored their sexuality, it's not uncommon for men to do this within families, and while there are religious morals around incest, and within hetrosexual relationships issues around incestious pregnancies, there really isn't anything wrong with what you've done.

You may find other people judge you much as you sound to be judging yourself, but it sounds like you guys were just experimenting with each other.

It sounds like you've done nothing wrong, and you try to find a way to be comfortable with it.

Tom

 

Don't have much to say, because Klix said it all. But I thought you'd like to see some more support. So here you go. Try not to beat yourself up. You didn't hurt anyone.

Hope you find what you're looking for here. Welcome to EC.

 

I too experienced incest with two of my neffews, on more than one occasion.We were all around the same age, between the ages of 16-19. Then it ended they went their way and i went mine. I don't know of anything​ bad happening or anything to feel bad about. We were just experimenting and having a good time. Yes you do have a place here, you are not alone.....

 

All cousins mess around

 

Incest is only taboo because humans have this tendency to produce genetically disadvantaged children when breeding inside a small genetic pool (IE closely related family). As long as there is no danger to future generations (obviously no one becomes pregnant in gay sex) and you both consent to everything nothing is wrong to do. You could do many, much, much worse things on a daily basis and noone would even care.

 

Don't feel guilty because you have regretted your mistake make sure that you never do this again ....

 

In addition to what everyone said.

Incest doesn't seem to have a exact definiotion.
In many cultures relationship among cousins is not a taboo and many people marry their cousins too.

 

While we were both in our mid teens, I had a minor experience with a cousin of mine. We were just really attracted to each other, one thing led to another, and we ended up making our and groping each other. Neither of us regretted it, but we never told anyone about it. My father would have beaten me until I spent the next year in the hospital, and my cousin would have been disowned by every member of the family.

So fooling around with a relative is no sin. As long as you both are consentual, I see no problem with it. And, truth be told, I know an engaged couple that are siblings.

 

While it breaks all the rules of "Normal" society, incest is far more common than most people are willing to admit.
I don't think I would be too far off in figuring around 40 to 50 percent of people on the planet have engaged in some form of incestual behavior at some point in their lives.
The OP should mark up the experience as enlightening to the fact he is not comfortable engaging in such activity and has no desire to engage in it again.
Time for him to move on past this.

 

You're definitely not alone.

I'm in a relationship with my cousin. We've been together for 3 years now. It was not easy in the beginning (a lot of conflicted feelings) and it took me a while to realize that there was no reason for us not to be together. People always come up with crazy motives to mess with other people's happiness.

This post actually helped me too.

 

In my work, I see examples of incest between non-consenting people or with children often, which is illegal here in the USA. What you are describing is between consenting adults, and is not inherently harmful. It may not be well-accepted by family, though. If you are feeling conflicted because of religious beliefs, some supportive counseling may be helpful.