So recently I came out as bisexual to my lovely girlfriend and she was super supportive and everything was positive af. Ive come to terms and accepted my attraction towards men but something is not right... Lately I've noticed a decreased attraction towards men, as if the thought of having sex with a man is getting boring to me. For a little bit I binged on gay porn and fantasies but now its not working out for me anymore.. I will get bored super quick unless I think of my one fetish which I will not exclaim.. Fantasizing men or women don't get me an erection on the spot ( most the time ) but I do feel a warm butterfly like feeling in my chest when fantasizing about women as if it was a natural high.. This may just be sexual fluidity but I've experienced this before, where my attractions would fluctuate depending on what I was in the mood for.. But now my attraction for men is just fading and its continuing to fade.. Any thoughts..? Im just super confused because I fully accepted my attractions and I am completely comfortable with it.
From my experience, saying we "swing both ways" is pretty accurate. I've seen a lot of bi people on here say that thier attractions swing back and forth from to one sex or the other over time. I've deffinately noticed my own attractions to each sex change over time. Sometimes all I want to think about or seem to notice are dudes, and other times all I want to look at or think about is girls. I'd say your probably just going through one of those fluxuations right now. I wouldn't worry about it to much, though I do remember how annoying it can be when you're still kind of new to this and still figuring things out. Eventually is will swing back, but it could be awhile. Also keep in mind that bisexuality doesn't mean always mean equal attractions both way. It could be that you just swing more toward girls. Don't feel like you have to Be equally into both all the time to be bi, because that's often not the case.
