Well, i like be lonely and feel kinda annoyed when i'm with someone unless that it be passenger or just sometimes; i've heard that some people don't like be lonely and i've seen that people change of couple everytime, i mean, break-up with one person and start dating with another person, one or two months after the previous person. If i'd have a stable relationship and it lasts after that relationship ends, i'd like be a good time alone, i don't like be always with persons. Sorry my english, i'm not a fluent speaker.
There is a difference between being alone... and being lonely. "Loneliness" refers to an emotional state that entails being sad because one has no friends or company. So yes, I would consider loneliness to be a bad thing. Being alone or solitary and comfortable with that makes the person a "loner", but not lonely unless they are unhappy with their lack of company. I am a loner, and very happily so... but I am rarely ever lonely. On the other hand, I used to have a neighbor that was very social. She would experience horrible depression if she didn't have extensive daily contact with other people.
I think it's good to have time to yourself, whether you're in a relationship or not. I wouldn't say that's the same as feeling lonely, as @Twist has explained already. I wouldn't describe myself as a loner, as I like having people around. However, I've not really felt the need to always be in a relationship or jump from one relationship to another. I've known people who do, but those people also appear to have lots of other people in their life, so they're not alone in general. It's almost like they have a need to be in a relationship and are not happy being single for whatever reason.
Being lonely by definition is bad because it means you are unhappy with being alone. Being alone and enjoying it is a different thing all together.
I'm not an expert, but I'd say solitude as in the state of being alone is fine by itself! Loneliness though is when you'd prefer to be with other people rather than be alone, which probably isn't good if you struggle with social things (like me). Some people like being alone, but they wouldn't be lonely. Of course there's probably a spectrum, and people might change at different points during their lives.
Since I work in health care, I constantly am with people all day. The time alone is precious to me. It is a chance for me to recharge. There have been times when my partner has been away for a few days, that I feel lonely. But we make a habit of phone calls each day we are apart. We have a good relationship. We also know that a short time ( 2-3 days) is okay. But we are always glad to be back together. So, being alone can be good. Maybe how one mentally or emotionally deals with loneliness determines whether it is good or bad.
Hell no. This is a gay forum, so being lonely and gay is still sad. Can you be happy and lonely, yes? But being lonely is not good. I'm not lonely by fucking choice.
Being alone is good and happy sometimes. We all need time to recharge our batteries alone. Feeling lonely is not good. Loneliness implies sadness and disconnection from those around us.
Hi, it is no problem with your English. Me too, English is not the first language instead the third Lang after local Lang, because we have hundred local Langs. When I was young, I like to be lonely. But it is not extreme. I think there are a lot advantages to be lonely while it has drawbacks. For example you can focus on your self but you don’t have possiblity to expand your networks. Now I can’t stand to be alone, I’m getting old now 40s. I need a guy who I love beside me. I really suffer from that if I alone. I don’t know why it happens like this. But my attitude is introverted and I enjoy friendship 1 by 1, not many people involved.
Being fine whether single or dating is healthy and good. I agree with everyone else. Being alone is a good state of being. Whether introvert or extrovert we all need alone time. Loneliness is a state of needing connection. I wouldn't call this "bad", because it's not bad to want connection. It's human. It's just not ideal to remain in a state of loneliness because our needs are being neglected. Always needing connection can get into relational dysfunction like codependency, which isn't good. There needs to be a balance.
It depends. If your loneliness is caused by yourself, then it’s wondedful. But if your loneliness is caused by other people, it’s depressing.
same. i try but my only contact is on the internet roses are red i have a phone no one texts me forever alone
