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That must be very hard not only worrying that your family but the society in which you are living as well will not be accepting. I am so happy to hear that you do have friends that you have spoken to about this and they have been supportive. I agree with your friends that your sister loves you and it sounds like you are very close to her so I am sure she will support you. Fun fact: After coming out to my own sister, she admitted to me in private that she too felt the way I described and admitted she was not 100% straight. She often thought about being in a same sex relationship and often catches herself crushing on other women. crazy right!? You never know - bringing this up to your sister might bring you two closer and if for nothing else, it will feel better being off your chest.

 

I get that and you have to do it in your own time, it's your life and your journey. Have you checked out the coming out forum? I expect there will be a lot of people's stories that will help you as well. Just know we are all here for you. *hugs*

 

Sure ask me anything, anytime No not at all, I think she was proud that I was being brave enough to own my truth (and maybe a little relieved as she had those feelings too that she couldn't admit). My other sister and mum handled it well too. My mum started asking me questions from my past about friends I had been close with if anything had happened between us. Seemed like she was suddenly putting all the signs together in her head. But no one was angry with me. My family support the LGBT community though as my sister has friends who are gay and I live in Australia which is becoming a more accepting society.

I think many non LGBT people realise the struggle to come out is a big one. First there is a lot of internal battling to admit to ourselves let alone our family and friends. Anyone who is angry with you for not sharing earlier is just projecting. If your sister was to react that way, I'd say it's because she is more angry at herself for not recognizing the signs etc and being there for you. I mean when society tells us we should be one way, and there is a huge stigma with being the other way - it takes time to come out. It's a journey. There is no right or wrong way to come out, or no time limit or rules as to how and when you should.

 

That is fantastic that her best friend is a gay man. That is really encouraging. I'd say refrain from labeling yourself if that is your concern. Just talk about your feelings. You got this!! GOODLUCK x

 

Hey again @hoodlum12 , I hear how difficult this is for you. It is a bit of a catch 22 situation. Hopefully spending time on EC will give you some more answers and direction. I know being on here has given me so much strength and lit up paths I thought I couldn't ever take. I have finally accepted myself since spending time on here. I didn't mean to come across pushy - I was just trying to show you encouragement. But I understand the delicate nature of your decision to come out.

 

Woohoo!!! Good on you!! So happy for you! I really hope you get the same reaction from your sister too! I am really excited for you! You're really brave, it couldn't have been easy doing that but look at what an amazing result! It has been my pleasure to help you and thank you for saying that. Message me anytime

 

Hi there
I am glad you found some courage to tell someone close to you respect good on you I still not out to family yet so know what you are going through well done

 

How do you become a full member?

 

Hi, I haven't been here for so long as well, you could talk to me if you'd like.

 

Hi! I'm new too. Always happy to talk. I just followed you. Have a good day hoodlum12.