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Coming Out Tomorrow?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by kayaz, Oct 25, 2017.

  1. jam93

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    Four time's is very ridiculous, borderline unacceptable. Your not being petty on that. Most people would have either got discouraged and given up, or rage quit by this point. I hope this does work out for you. As much trouble as you've had you diverse a win. Good luck.
     
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    thanks <3
     
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    I really hope it works out for you, it hasn't for me, kind of. My friend and I (who knows that I'm gay) were talking about my crush who was in the library with us to another friend and the other friend was guessing who it was and she asked if it was a guy and I said "yes" but we ended up switching topics immediately and besides, it was only one person.
     
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    Well I'm glad that you made some progress and I'm proud of you <3
     
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    Yea, thanks. When your next appointment scheduled? Are you still planning on coming out then?
     
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    Thursday at 10:00. And I don't know. I don't feel ready anymore. And I'm about to go into tech week for my show and I don't need the extra stress :joy: (the sarcasm levels are at maximum overload)
     
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    hey! i'm pretty sure i'm too late because i'm just now seeing that this was posted a week ago but i think this is a good person to come out to. your school counselors should never judge you and they often try to help you come out to other people in your circle as well. i really hope it all went well and i expect positive things to come out of this. ^.^
     
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    Eh. I didn't go as well as I hoped. I've had to reschedule several times lol @Jani
     
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    I got outed at school. Let's just say it's a good thing I can fight! I just buried it to the point I was in denial for years about 8 I think I'm only 24. I came out to myself; and one other person, yesterday(again). After 3 long term girlfriends and several....poor choices. Lightbulb moment! Two feet straight in at the deep end, if you don't go for it and avoid it, you'll just end up wasting precious time. Just remember bowling for soup are wrong highschool ends then real world starts and no one cares anymore. Good luck! I'm tempted to just declare it as I walk in the door to work tomorrow but as Gallas as I can be I don't think I'd manage it.
     
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    Oh no! What happened?? @kayaz
     
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    She's just really busy. even when I made the appt. directly with her, when I got to the door there would be a sign that said "(name) is in a meeting until 12". or one time she had to leave early with no warning. I don't really feel ready anymore because I am feeling discouraged and other stressors. I'll be okay though @Jani
     
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    I forgot to mention that over the past like week I've had to change appt. 4 or five times
     
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    Hope she can finaly see you Thursday. If she can see you the I'd recomend you try to come out to her then. If you don't then that's fine to, do what feels right at the time. But as much trouble as you've gone through to get this appointment I think you should try to get as much out of it as you can.
     
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    GAHH I DID IT I FEEL SO GOOD AND REALLY VALIDATED THANK YOU EVERYONE
     
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    That's awaome! Glad to hear you finaly got in to see your councilor, and really happy to hear it went well. Coming out to your first person is a big step. Now you've got someone to talk to when you need it. Congratulations.
     
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    oh my goodness. I'm so sorry. that's terrible. it really makes it worse when that person seems like they don't have any time for you. I'm sorry and I hope you find someone you can trust to talk about this, someone who listens and someone who is willing to give their time to you. good luck! <3
     
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    Hey @kayaz I was coming back to this thread to see how you got on, what a rollercoaster, well done!! How are you feeling now?
     
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    Good. My conselor who i came out to was really chill about it and then we had an honest (mostly) conversation about what I've been going though. However she has known cis girl me for a number of years and she has reverted to calling me Mar. (My given name is Mary) but the cat is out of the bag and i haven't turned into road kill yet so...
    Now that I've done it with one person though my heart just wants to shout that my name is kayden and that i'm here and queer. and I'm having another meeting next week to see about joining my school's gsa because my a n x i e t y (uggh) is holding me back.
    I also want to do a queer rights project for a class but I'd be worried that my friends (who are in the same class) will think things that I don't want them to think because I'm not ready for them to know.
     
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    Ha, I remember the first time I came out to someone. Ya, I felt pretty similar, wanted to tell everyone the next day. Glad I didn't, because I still had A LOT of self discovery to do between that and coming out to everyone (at the time I just had a vague notion that I might like some guys). Joining your schools gsa sounds like a good idea. It would let you meet people your own age who are going through similar things. I'm sure your counselor will be a big help (she better after all the shit you went through to see her) but sometimes you just need someone to say "ya, I know what you mean, I feel that way too." Good luck.