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Is there anyway to ignore dsyphoria?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Ramlethal, Oct 31, 2017.

  1. Ramlethal

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    I feel terrible and want to think about other things. ;(
     
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    Probably, you would need to work it through to get rid of it, and find a way to be happy with your gender expression.
     
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    Like that is actually possible... ;(
     
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    I'm sorry you have to go through it :frowning2:

    Sometimes even getting over regret helps with that kind of thing.
     
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    The best way to get to a point where you can ignore it is to treat it. For some people it can fade off by adulthood, but for many they still have to deal with dysphoria for the rest of their life. I would recommend speaking to a doctor or therapist about it, and also perhaps experimenting with gender expression (e.g. clothing, haircut, pronouns) to see if that helps.
     
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    Hobbies that can help you express yourself can help too.
     
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    some of the things i did/do is to paint my toe nails, under dress, dress as my appropriate gender when i get the chance, sleep in night dress as opposed to PJ's have real self talk using my proper pronouns and name.
     
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    I have to be in the closet but there are a few things that help me. I wear almost exclusively men's section t-shirts. I call myself a guy in my head. I keep my hair up and out of the way. I bought myself a neutral looking watch and my new eye glasses are neutral as well. The goal was to get as masculine a look for watch and glasses as i could get away with. This makes me comfortable enough to express myself more true to me at work, cause i feel safe at work (not out there either). I will talk and joke around with the customers and help the customers load their carts. Try to be polite, hold open doors, stand and walk straighter (i swear this makes me feel more confident), etc. Things that come natural but i was too uncomfortable and anxious to do before coming out to myself. I also dress as the right gender at night after everyone has gone to bed, playing with presenting properly even if its just in dress/appearance.
     
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    It can never Really be ignored, only managed. Fooling yourself into believing it can be ignored, is not only weak, but Objectivity just about the most unhealthy attempt of all self-medication(itself a foolhardy attempt to manage ones initial realization of personal weakness) of which you strengthen further with each moment you believe you are Weak.

    Asking for help doesn't make you less deserving of any and all help you legitimately need.

    Something I realized I needed to unlearn, i had slowly but surely convinced myself that was the case, for no good reason.
     
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    I find it best to acknowledge it. Work through it mentally. Accept the thoughts. It's kind of hard to explain but, when I got them recently, and boy did they hit me hard at first, I realized it was better for me to be open to them and explore these thoughts, rather than trying to fight them. It really helped me. Now, physical dysphoria, on the other hand, I got no dice. I'm often dissatisfied when I look in the mirror.
     
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