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What are your turn-ons? (Bonus: turn-offs?)

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by taical, Oct 28, 2017.

  1. taical

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    I realized today that I have a strange turn-on: when a guy or girl smells like smoke. Not when associated with cigarettes, but just smoke, like if we've come from a bonfire or something. So now I'm curious if that's really weird or not even close compared to other people's.
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  2. Secrets5

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    On - ginger hair, smaller than average in height, passionate about something I like
    Off - smoker, severely overweight
     
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    Turn-ons: Glasses, dark hair, cuddly, geeky/nerdy, artistic, semi-dominant
    Turn-offs: Smoking, drinking too much (social is fine), closeted, too obsessed with their sexuality
     
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    Turn ons:- strong / assertive, geeky, glasses, sporty / outgoing, cute smile.

    Turn offs;- smokes, drinks excessively, lazy or has a cat or dog.
     
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    Turn-on: beard, cute smile, dark eyes, funny, a bit shy (but not too much), deep voice

    Turn off: smoking, heavily drinking, too skinny or overweight, too effeminate, baldness
     
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    Turn-Ons: Certain timber of voices, Gideon's hand on my throat, intensity, violence as foreplay from a man that knows how to be gentle and cherishes me (aka Gideon), a toe curling kiss (especially if it includes some crowding)

    Turn-Offs: bad hygiene, bad teeth, squeaky voices, drug addiction, tobacco use, excessive drinking, methamphetamine use, heroine use, noisy eaters, hate, manipulation (esp in the form of guilt trips)
     
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    - Confident and outgoing but not cocky or arrogant
    - Intelligent
    - Witty
    - Caring and affectionate
    - Adventurous
    - Genuine
    - Open minded
    - love of nature and being outdoors

    Turn offs:
    - opposite of the above plus:
    - overly emotional / dramatic / attention seeking
    - Too concerned with appearances and materialism.
    - Racist or bigoted
    - trashy


    Physical:
    Women:
    - feminine
    - long, soft hair
    - not obsessed with fashion or makeup, casual and natural
    - i love women who wear long flowing casual dresses. The sort you might see at a beach or when holidaying. Like these:
    https://www.google.com.au/search?q=...ved=0ahUKEwit9YaK5JbXAhWClJQKHVPqAR4Q_AUIEigB

    Men:
    - masculine
    - I little bit rugged, and willing to get his hands dirty but can also wear a suit well when needed lol
    - struggling to think of more because I don't currently appear to have an attraction to men at the moment

    It appears as though I'm incapable of making a short post lol.
     
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    Turn on's- red or ginger hair,a nice person, outgoing personality. And they would have to love animals. I don't care if there femme or butch I'm attracted to both.
    Turn offs- Addiction to anything. Preferably a non- drinker due to the fact I don't drink, but I wouldn't mind if they had one ore two but regularly getting tipsy or drunk would annoy me. Bullying or talking about people behind their back. Belittling my opinions on any matter. Hurting an animal or being mean to a child. A lot heavier than me would also be a turn off.
     
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    Turns on - someone who loves me
    turn off - someone racist and/or homophobic
     
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    Turn on - freckles, glasses, sarcasm, nerdy about something
    Turn off - B.O. chewing tobaco, smoking, excessive drinking,
     
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    that sound a cash register makes when it opens gives me cold chills
     
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    I love guys that...
    - ... are sleeping and you can just look at their 'sleeping face' ( I've always had a soft spot for this and never found anybody else with this particular "fetish" but recently I discovered that in Japan this is actually part of the kawai (=cute) concept so you will see lots of their idols - yes, even the male idols - being photographed for magazines with their eyes closed as if they are sleeping or them taking selfies while they are fake sleeping and posting these pictures to their Twitter or Instagram account for fans to go crazy over. They even call it the 'sleeping face' in Japanese so it's a known term, lol )

    - ... have long hair cascading down their back. A rare sight nowadays and therefore all the more exciting, lol. ( Of course when I was a teen thirty years ago it was pretty common since guys with long hair was a thing due to the popularity of hard rock bands and whatnot... ah, those were the days! )

    - ... show their forearms! Wearing half-sleeves is the best, but even just rolling up the sleeves will work. Biceps don't do anything for me but forearms, well, they do plenty for me!

    - ... are physically appealing yet despite of that are not overly confident, but show a bit of coyness or a hint of cute awkwardness = guaranteed to melt my heart.

    Biggest turn-offs:
    - tattoos
    -beards
    -boxy, ordinary suits and ties.
    -crew cuts/hairstyles with the sides buzzed off
    -smoking ( the smell makes me run away )
    -physical aggressiveness; just an example, I've never wanted to look at guys fighting so not a fan of movies with prominent fighting scenes or where fighting is glorified.
     
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    Turn ons: preppy winter clothes. A cute guy becomes 10x cuter if he's in a pea coat and scarf. Also guys who can sing and are sweet around animals and little kids

    Turn offs: ear gauges, beards, tattoos, too much muscle, arrogance
     
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    Turn on: Long & dark hair, grunge/goth/alternative fashion, nerdy, piercings, has/likes animals, taller than me.
    Turn off: Smokes, drinks, does any kind of tobacco/drugs, doesn't like animals, very short hair/shaved head/bald, A LOT of body hair.
     
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    Biggest turn ons: guys who are taller than me, have deep voices, witty, nerdy like me, have strong physiques but can also have a little extra too, short hair, some body hair, are kind and thoughtful, likes hiking and doing other outdoors stuff.

    Main turn offs: guys who drink excessively, use drugs, lazy and can't be bothered to take care of themselves, excessive back hair, stuck in permanent sarcasm mode (dated a guy like this. It was fun at first, but became grating as time went on), too skinny or overweight/obese.
     
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    Turn off: drugs, drinks, tattoos, piercings, overly emotional
     
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    Turn offs: smoker, does drugs, bad teeth, overly skinny or fat, dumb, judgemental, racest, sexest, homo/bi/transphobic, overly religious.

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    Turn ons: short hair or that long with shaved side look, wierd colored hair (especially white) or highlights, likes skirts or dresses, red lipstick.
    Turn offs: really feminine or excessively butch, really big or obviously fake boobs, really fancy nails (like with multiple colors or rhinstones or whatever, not sure why but those bug me).

    Guys:
    Turn ons: med to longish hair or that short on sides but long on top look that's popular, strong jawline, stubble or or short beard, some body hair, defined butt.
    Turn offs: toxic masculinity, overly muscular, shaved/bald/military style hair, balding.
     
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    I have to make a selection! turnons (guys): intelligence, dark and/or curly hair, stubble, chiseled jawline, loves animals/nature.
    turn offs: smoker / addictions, tattoos, hair on back/shoulders, bad smell, also I deeply hate douchebag haircuts.
     
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    ons are long hair, genuine kindness, tattoos, intelligence, and gravelly voices

    offs are arrogance and prejudice
     
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    Many of these apply to me as well.