Hi I’m 15 and basically, I’m straight , or at least I think I am. But around 2/3 years ago, I became very close to this girl through football, and I have been for over a year. I don’t see her very often, only at football and sometimes in the holidays or at a weekend, but I feel like we don’t have a normal friendship. Like I saw her yesterday as I went around to her house and we stayed in her room for the day, and just chilled, but like she is a very physically affectionate person and like would lean on me or cuddle me, or even when I was sat behind me on the bed with my legs sort of around her, she lent back and rested her head on my chest. I like being close to her physically and this is one of the main reasons I’m confused. Should I enjoy cuddling her and being close to her or is that “gay”? Her sister is a lesbian so I don’t think there is any way she is gay as well? Both of us have kissed other girls at parties and I didn’t feel anything towards them girls but there seems to be like a spark between us two that I don’t get with any of my other female friends. I know 100% I am attracted on boys but i just need my questions answering, thanks
If you like hanging out with her and being close then why not carry on and see what happens. You are young so still have plenty of time to figure things out. Her sister being gay doesn’t mean she isn’t. Some people are very affectionate and others aren’t.
I agree with Lia her sister being gay doesn't mean she is or isn't and some people are very touchy feels with their friends and others aren't. If you are enjoying hanging out and everything that's happening then go with it and see what happens.
But does me being confused about her mean I’m bi? But there’s no other girls that I think I’m attracted to in anyway. And the other day she was “talking” to this lad and she admitted she has feelings for him, but she’s said he’s very moody and I said like me then and she went on to say that his personality is that exact same as mine he’s just a lad, and that’s made me think too because is that her trying to drop hints or is it just me thinking too much. I don’t know
You need to give yourself more time to see how things develop. You won’t come up with an answer yet and trust me you will just drive yourself crazy keep going over little details in your mind. So I would park those questions for now and focus on the present and come back to them later.
I think I may just be at that stage you know, I’m not worried I just needed a little bit of reasurance
