If you identify as queer, what is your sexuality? And why?

I would consider myself to be bisexual. I have questioned my speciality and came to this conclusion. I have felt romantic and sexual feelings towards both genders. But I’m a virgin though.

 

The terms I've found that I identify most with are gender fluid pansexual. I present male in my daily life, but how I feel about it changes often. And the more I look into gender, the more I see a vast collection of distinctly separate genders outside the traditional male/ female models. And I even though I am most often in relationships with women I recognize and accept attraction to all genders. That doesn't mean I'm attracted to all people or even to all genders equally.

 

I describe myself as gay, I dislike the word/term lesbian.

 

It totally depends on the space I'm in whether or not I would use the term queer. I'm bisexual (leaning lesbian) but there is just so much "junk" attached to the term bisexual that I hate using it. I don't like being fetishized for oversexualized. Queer is a great way to say "hey, I'm part of the community" without getting too into the weeds.

On top of that, now I'm in a lesbian relationship with someone I absolutely adore. So these days, most people assume I'm a lesbian if they meet me for the first time. I don't bother to correct them. But if someone from my past asks me, "So you're gay now?" (SMH) I usually respond with, "I've always been queer..."

*shrug* I'm not big into labels, so whatever is easiest (aside from straight or a slur) to go along with is generally fine by me.

 

Non-binary Asexual Quoiromantic. Half of the time I use queer just because it's easier that explaining all of my little identity words. Other times it's because of mental illness making my labels feel funky and it's nicer to just have one