Does genitalia attraction determines your sexual orientation?

As a general rule, yes, although of course we don't tend to see people's genitals the first time we meet them. What is it you find confusing?

 

I'm a little bit in the same boat, although i learned to appreciate kissing men as well if i am arroused sexually. But i never experinced a sexual attraction to men i meet in the "normal" life. And i feel very attracted to a lot of beautiful women. My sexual fantasies are almost only about Gaysex, even without watching porn. It's quite confusing...

 

I do think It's a huge part, but not the only part of your orientation.

 

Genitalia attraction can help (just a wee bit) determine sexuality but this is not an absolute rule. Hey we're talking about "the human brain" and well nobody fully understands brains yet. I'm gay, no doubt about it (thanks ECs for helping me figure this out). How do I know I'm gay? Past history and currently where my feelings are. If you want to research the subject, search sexual and emotional intimacy, respectively.

Example: I found a stack of Playboys couple weeks ago. I have to admit some of the ladies looked pretty damn fine, featured in the pics - hey I'me a Kinsey 4-5! And yes I got aroused. Yes I could have sex with a few of the ladies pictured - definitely more erotic than Rosy Palm and her five sisters. But that's as far as it goes. I have no emotional feeling for the ladies pictured. It was this lack of feeling(s) (emotional intimacy) that caused me to break up with girl friends. One said I was a cold emotionless person. Yep she was right and at the time I didn't know how she was right.

But when I see a guy I'm into....sparks, a deep hunger to be with, breaking my routine to get to know him. And when I check out his butt, OMG, yup I'm gay! (Lol, I've never seen a woman's butt I liked. I just don't like pear shaped butts.)

 

That pretty much the same for me. Have always been thinking about what I would like to do with a man. I like alot to think about or fantasise naked men with erections. And I think a naked man is more then just a naked man. Its like a symbol of health and strenght. I do have some troduble about romantic aspects with men but that could just be that I dont have had any real dates with a man.

Just like you I also have a really strong desire to have sex with a man. And it is also very much frustrating to be om å hetero relationship with a woman without beeing able to try a relationship with a man.
And its also like some days I feel very comfident thinking that I an gay. And some days I would not accept my sexuality.
I truly hope that you find out were you belong and that you will accept yourself as you are.

 

Eroticism is certainly part of your sexuality. It is the part you cannot control and it's the part that gets you hard, sexually stimulating you. So, if you find male genitalia erotic, it would be a decent indication of your sexuality.

Layered on top of this, however, are all the aspects that you get from your culture, mainly that your attraction to men is wrong, unhealthy, sick, deviant and immoral. Thus, you have a hard time seeing yourself in a relationship with a man because you have been taught to deem that as wrong. In the areas you cannot control, however, it's clear where your attractions really lie.

Once you are able to strip away the anti-gay messaging you've received all of your life, your real attractions to the whole man will emerge.