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I've been doing this all wrong

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by baristajedi, Sep 29, 2017.

  1. baristajedi

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    I have been in this weird thinking, anxious, emotional state. And I have been trying to soothe my feelings, comfort myself.

    But I'm realising, it's not comfort I need...it's a kick in the a**. I have an amazing life, an amazing little girl, a chance at love and family that feels right and true to me, finally, I'm living freely as myself, being me, and everyone who depends on me is ok. I can do this, I can make the decisions I need to make, I can make a wonderful secure life for my daughter, I'm strong, I'm a good mom. Enough of this emotional bs. I'm not doing it anymore. It's time to live. I'm letting go of the grief, the pain, the fear. It has no place in my life.
     
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    These are very beautiful and empowering words. Grief, pain, and fear can do so much damage to our soul that even when we are in the place we need to be, they still try to find a way to creep back in and hurt us. Allow yourself the time and to feel and process the emotions and feelings you may have, but find a way so that they can no longer control you. You are not your fears. You are not your guilt. You are strong and pushing those fears aside takes courage beyond belief.

    As always, continue to stay strong and moving forward.
     
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    YES YES YES!!!!!

    "It's time to Live" totally love it. totally stealing it too haha. ((HUGS))

    glad you're seeing what we all have for some time.
     
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    Thank you both ️...ah I'm looking for a Pride emoji...do we not have pride emojis?? :slight_smile:
     
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    And on that's note.... on to Spotify to play the song that was on repeat at Pride this year (waka waka, shakira) :slight_smile: :slight_smile:
     
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    I loved this post! I was just thinking about what I need to do next and this was empowering. Cheers as you shed all of your burdens!
     
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    Thank you @leb10, and you can do it, you've got this! This place gives me courage :slight_smile:
     
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    Yep time to live go girl !!!
     
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    Yes - Appreciate what you have and keep on fighting for what you want! Strength comes from taking action. While introspection is useful, it needs to be supported with action. No more emotional BS.

    Do I have your permission to remind you of your post next time you're in a funk? :slight_smile:

    PS - Find :gay_pride_flag: under the Objects tab of the Smiles list.
     
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    Yes!!!! We deserve happiness and contentment. You’re post gave me a virtual slap in the face. Lol. This week has been so emotional for me and very trying. I worry too much about what others think and tend to carry baggage that doesn’t necessarily belong to me. Why should we?! We’re parents, friends, partners, career driven, hardworking, lovers, carers.... the list of our awesomeness is endless!! Thank you for the slap ❤️️‍ :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Yes, please do! :slight_smile: and thank you for giving me a few kicks to move forward when I've needed them before, it has helped me every time :slight_smile:

    And thanks about the pride emojis, I knew we must have them!

    :gay_pride_flag::gay_pride_flag::gay_pride_flag:
     
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    You're right shortbutsweet, we do deserve contentment and happiness, we work hard for it! Let's get out there and get it!

    I'm sorry you've had a trying week, I hope things get better for you. ❤️️‍
     
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    Your post gave ME a much needed virtual slap in the face too! @baristajedi your words 'enough of this emotional bs!' are just what I needed.

    My therapist called me out on it too this week. 'You find some comfort in your emotional pain, it feels like home to you.' Acknowledgement: This is no place to call home!