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So confusing

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Sundara, Sep 28, 2017.

  1. Sundara

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    Someone crazy about me but I did not care about him. I love anothers guy but he does not love me.
    Life is so strange, I want to be angry and do not forgive myself.
     
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    Why don't you want to forgive yourself? You can't help who you do and don't like.
     
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    That is a good point that I never forgive myself. I tried it but always failed.
    May be all the in the world are not perfect but I required it. Someone who I love and he loves me back.
     
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    Be kind to the person who is crazy about you.
    Be kind to the guy who doesn't love you back.
    Be kind to yourself; self-forgiveness may come with time.
    Continue to give kindness-- givers always gain. It may not be immediate, it may not be in the ways we expect, but you will gain.

    Please trust me on this; I've been there.
     
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    Wanting someone you love and that loves you back doesn't mean you want perfection that is a normal thing to want. As the above poster said you should be nice to them but just be clear about how you feel and then move on and keep looking. Looking for a partner can be frustrating sometimes but you just have to keep going whilst working on being the best you that you can be.
     
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