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Just bi curious or bi sexual? Please help.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by geekysarah, Sep 15, 2017.

  1. geekysarah

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    I'm a little confused.
    I'm a girl. I'm 25. I've always been attracted to guys, I had a huge crush on a girl when I was 14-15 but put it down to hormones.
    I've been feeling bi-curious recently, like I wouldn't say no to trying stuff with a girl, I never have btw. But it's only occasionally I think a girl is cute, and it's not like "she's hot" it's like I'm drawn to her.
    When i was on dating sites I thought about looking at the women section sometimes but shook it off.
    Can you be bisexual if it's occasionally and it's mainly men you like?
    Sorry if this sounds stupid I just want to know what I am.
     
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    You remind me a lot of myself.

    Had a few light crushes on girls while younger that I would brush up as "intense friendship", "me simply wanting to be like them" or just "hormones". Between all those crushes there would be guys I would like so in my head it only confirmed the theory I had that I was just going through a phase and that I was indeed straight. At age 18 I met a girl who I like to call my "trigger crush", she was the first girl I couldn't brush off as "just a friend I found pretty". The feelings I had for her were so intense that I couldn't deny the fact that I was attracted to her, it took me a while to accept it but eventually I did, then I moved to another country and, just like that, I convinced myself that she was just the "exception" not the rule and that therefore I was still very much straight,I was in so much denial that I litterally shut down that side of me to only focus on men. It lasted almost a year until I met another girl I very much liked and that's where I realized one may have been a coincidence but two must mean something more, and since the very moment I accepted my sexuality I haven't looked back.
    Now I actually identify as bisexual but I am leaning much more toward women, to the point that I can barely believe that I used to be mostly attracted to men, actually if my past with men didn't exist I probably would identify as a lesbian, so...

    But anyway. I can't tell you what you are but I wouldn't be surprised if you are a bit more than bi-curious, would you date one of the girl you fancy ? Most bi-curious girl wouldn't, they would like to try out lesbian sex but don't want to commit to being in a relationship with a woman and what coming out of the closet entail.
     
  3. geekysarah

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    To be honest, I feel like I would do things with a woman but also I would try being with one. I have a boyfriend now but I've thought if I ever am single again I might try dating women.
    It's just confusing I've always thought I was straight. But surely straight girls don't like women.
     
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    I was also bi-curious at some point in my life. I started taking my sexuality a little more seriously in high school bit was still pretty confused until I got to college. I now identify myself as bisexual. When I had a relationship with a girl and got completely heartbroken from it, I realized I was bisexual. I've dated a fair share of both men and women.