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I think I'm turning a corner?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by RJay, Aug 29, 2017.

  1. RJay

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    OMG, of course, right after I wrote that, I saw V, and we spent about 20 minutes together. And she got all personal about feeling down today about worried about her future, etc. So, here we go again. If her little daughter hadn't been with us, I surely would have spilled my guts.

    In a somewhat related story... Check out this beautiful post someone made on the other late-in-life forum I'm on:
    "I was confused, screwed up, beside myself- I had to tell her how I felt before I exploded...
    This amazing person had come into my life and completely turned it upside down, back to front and inside out.. me a completely straight woman (so I thought) married for 28years, mum of 2 suddenly couldn't eat or sleep and was crazily in love.
    So I did it LiLLYs - I told her!!! I had to just had to... I didn't know what she'd say, she was straight too but we'd grown closer and closer and she'd awoken me..
    That was 10th September 2015. 2 years ago today since I held out my hand full of fear about her response but she chose to take it and we've never let go since.
    Happy 2nd anniversary Alison my soulmate, my forever person, my gorgeous girl. I love you forever xxxx"
    OMG, isn't that beautiful? Can you even stand it? (Don't worry, folks, I do NOT expect that to happen to me. Not at all.)
     
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    I thought for sure you were a secret therapist about to lose your job for giving free advice on this site. Lol
     
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    So did I!
     
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    Haha no

    And no.

    I don't have any qualifications or training or previous in therapy. I told you I'm a fraud.
     
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    You give good advice anyways. Thanks for all your wise words.
     
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    Don't sell yourself short. You never know. True love could be right around the corner.
     
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    You are more than welcome. I'm glad I can help sometimes. Before you know it you will all be giving the same kind of advice.
     
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    Wow Rjay, that is such a powerful, beautifully-written story you shared with us! See, it IS possible! You won't know until you try...
    Even many 'experienced' lesbians are initially uncomfortable with large gatherings, particularly with other lesbians. In my small-town culture, it's kind of sad actually how more 'visible' lesbians seem to avoid each other in public. It's weird. Yet, once the conversations begin, no problem! I hope you have a good time if you decide to go this week.

    Quick facts about me:
    Schooling - BA in music (flute, always looking for a pianist lol)
    Tattoos - none but curious
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    Fav celeb crush - Dany the queen of dragons!
     
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    Wait!! WHAT other site are you on? So what you are saying here is that you are cheating on us??? Haha!

    I need all the support sites I can get...so can u shoot us a code here? BASIC code. VERY basic. :wink:

    The above post is sooo beautiful. Wow. I read it twice. Wish we could meet thse women.
     
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    OK, so surely it's OK to share another website that is a support group for women like us? It's not for dating or hookups or anything like that. Just google "a late life lesbian story". From there you can email the owner of the site to inquire about joining the "group".
     
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    I am ok as long as @RJay doesn't abandon us for the other site...I love these threads too much to lose them.
     
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    This made me laugh. She is! She's cheating on us!

    In all seriousness, it is a beautiful sentiment. And it surely can happen. I know a couple of women that have in fact had a similar experience.
     
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    HAHA. I'm not cheating, I swear!!! Love you ladies sooooo much. Seriously, LOVE.
     
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    Rjay tell L about Friday. She's bound to make sure you go.

    You have to tell V what's been going on. She needs to know that how she acts around you impacts on you big time.

    And yes don't ever leave us. So many are living vicariously through you.
     
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    Bare with me as I catch up on 300 posts today:stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I got behind with my rough week last week and being with my husband over the weekend. I love how this post is seriously bringing us together. I'm back where you guys were talking about posting pictures. Think I may have to hop on and join with that! So fun to see pictures of all of you! I'll be back engaging with the "current" conversation soon! Haha.
     
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    RJay you must go on Friday! How great there's a group near you. I think it'll be one of those things that you dread then really have a great time at. You're never alone you probably have all of us in your phone! I am rubbish at facebook which I think the 'other' site requires but the blog is really interesting, thanks for the heads up!
    I am so hypocritical though am waaaay too scared to go to anything myself, and not sure how I come across day to day I'm pretty sure people would think I was straight, not that I think I do, but I just have no idea about this stuff, I also have a completely broken 'gaydar' and would hardly ever be able to guess about other people..
     
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    It so can! TIG AND STEPHANIE!

    Has everyone here seen the movie TIG(Netflix)? Should really be mandatory watching (and props to RJay who told me about it.)

    You don't think the movie is going to go in the direction it does at all. It's about a gay woman and a not gay woman and the friendship that develops between them. And how they break apart, and come back together. Real down to earth, funny (both these women are crazy funny) and beautiful movie.

    @RJay- yes! I KNOW this other late in life lesbian group--the one you are having an affair with on us :wink:

    I was going to join a while ago but then got all sketchy about it. I envisioned all my lesbian confessions somehow leaking all over my FB newsfeed (even though I know in my sensible head it's a secret group.) I think it's time for me to rethink! The more support the better-for sure
     
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    I just watched that last night. Such a good story. And Stephanie told her she was only interested in men. And then a happy ending!
     
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    Oops I posted a message saying RJay should go on Friday and it is awaiting moderator approval <gulp>
    Me: 5'2, medicine, have crazy hours, gives me the perfect excuse to never go anywhere or meet anyone
     
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    Are you a doctor?