Dreaming of women

Sounds like the start of living through your sexuality! It's a pretty common thing.

 

Hot. I haven't had dreams, just daydreams, lol.

 

I had one recently where I was in a small camper van and there wasn't much room so I had to sleep in the table converted to a bed with some unnamed friend. In the dream I am spooning her in my sleep and wake up to sounds of her orgasm. It seems I had been touching her in my sleep lol and it felt like a first encounter. All my life or as far back as I can remember I have had a recurring dream of having sex with a unknown woman and I always thought I was a man in the dream but now I gather it could be a strap on lol. Thankfully I am fully aware of being a woman with a woman in my recent dream. The long standing dream had always bothered me because I thought it meant that I wanted to be a guy and that didn't seem to be exactly accurate. Strangely I never thought oh it's because you like girls. The thought of bringing another woman pleasure is so satisfying and I have never thought like about men, they always seem to find their pleasure ok that I never felt a need or want to pleasure them.

 

I've not had any dreams either...wouldn't mind though

 

Oh yes!! I love those types of dreams.

 

Yes, often. Sometimes it's my catalyst, sometimes an unknown woman. We rarely get beyond kissing, though. I've had a few of these dreams years ago, before I started questioning. Then once they became more frequent, I googled and found a forum for pregnat women who reported a lot of lesbian dreams. People thought it's because they are claiming their femininity and the dream symbolises it in that way.

Also, this may be boring or maybe controversial, but a few quotes I've been wondering about for along time. They are from a Jungian writer, Marion Woodman. She's an analyst and this is mostly about the changes in women in long term therapy. But still.

"Women who are robbed of that feminine birthright [had a troubled relationship with their mother] may have to experience physical acceptance by another woman, whether in dreams, in close friendship or in a lesbian relationship, before they can find security within themselves."

"As the analysand learns to listen to her own body, her sexuality gradually becomes connected to real feeling and the lesbian dreams are either replaced by heterosexual dreams or she consciously chooses a lesbian relationship."

"A woman whose mother did not love her own femininity, and who therefore rejected the female body of her daughter, almost inevitably goes through a period of lesbian dreams or lesbian acting-out because her body requires acceptance by a woman. [...] If the lesbian phase is carefully integrated [...] then the woman who has never been able to surrender to orgasm experiences a new world of sexuality."

 

Um, wow. Not that I think my sexuality is my mother's doing (and wouldn't she hate it if it were), but this resonates with me so much. I have always felt - disconnected, maybe - with men. Don't get me wrong, I'm totally bisexual and I love men as well, but I could never fully let go. I'm finding it much easier to give in to - everything - to let go of control with a woman.

And yes - intimate dreams about women. I concur with Rjay - HOT!

 

Which century was this from??

 

@mattblack The book was published in 1985. Does is seem very dated to you? I don't know, it might be... She's talking about the experience of her therapy clients. And because I started questioning while in long term therapy, I wonder about it.

 

I have never had a dream about the same sex but I have thought about it. I'm sure there is some truth in what she is saying to an extent

 

OMG, when I was pregnant, all I could think about was sex with women. I panicked, but I assumed it was hormonal and would go away. And I did make it go away. For a while.

 

You probably have but for whatever reason your mind is preventing your consciousness from realizing it.

 

I've only had a couple of dreams. But, uh, do day dreams counts? Bc I am shocked at the images and fantasies running through my mind. Thank god my thoughts are not broadcast out to the public at large. I know this is largely due to the fact I have not had sex in a while and I have now fully embraced my same sex attractions so my mind is just going with it! But damn! It is hard to focus ladies!

 

Haha! I could have written that word for word. I'm a mess.

 

Can you imagine? Yeah, if my thoughts were broadcast...

 

Actually you're right!!! I completely forgot about this.
When I was first questioning I did have a few dreams, three separate ones which included three different friends...what the hell does that mean?
Do you think that same sex dreams are indicative of your sexuality?

 

Omg. It's a good thing, I guess(?), that we can't all get together. Then again we could all practice and get this out of our system before we start dating "real" lesbians. Haha! (Just kidding! Mods don't kick me off the forum!)

 

I have them all the time. It's somehow reassuring to see that there's always more people experiencing the same stuff as me