How long does it take you to get over someone? Is there anything to do to shorten the time of being unhappily in love with someone?
If you figure it out let me know! Everyone says distract yourself from thinking of them but for me it's like I'm good until I have time to myself, then that's still all I think about. But maby your different. Good luck!
Were you in a relationship, or is this unrequited love? For many people, breakups can take many months, often more than a year. I think a large part has to do with a person's feeling of loss not just of their love but also their identity while in the relationship, which can be made worse with reminders like social media, photos, messages, etc. that you might need to remove. Also, this is a good time to rebuild your friendships that may have been ignored.
It's different for everyone and every relationship. I think for me, I find it easier to pick myself up now because I am more 'well in myself' than I previously was but I still had a pretty hard time getting over my last relationship. I guess, accept that it won't happen over night and that's okay, but find other things to focus on. I saw friends, learned Spanish, played the guitar, things that made me feel like ME and then moved on. Hope this helps x
And I agree with the social media thing. It's hard to get over someone when they're still on your screen all of the time. Delete.
Very quickly considering how long I was together with that person. It may be the fact that they cheated on me and say sublet hints they don't really like my anti-gender stereotype opinions and somewhat genderneutral personality. Don't think I loved that person... There is really only times heals the lost&wounds and "out of sight, out of mind."
Don't say "just" unrequited love. It's as painful, maybe even more so. Especially if it's pretty obvious the other person loves you but can't bring themselves to admit it or come out of the closet to do so.
I feel for you. It's true time and new focus does help you get over them but the process is torrid. In my case I recently came out to a friend who claims is straight but I *know* likes me and always has. Since I came out he "acted" supportive but has actually distanced himself from me. Feels like he is now trying end or downgrade our friendship. I think he knows that being good friends with me means he has to confront his sexuality sooner or later after years of denial. I already got over him once a year or so ago only to fall for him deeper this time. And I will be working again on a daily basis with him pretty soon. So painful.
