Do you believe in marriage?

Marriage may work for some people, but certainly not for me.

 

Totally lol

 

I'm an old fashioned romantic. If I were to ever meet someone that I truly loved I'd marry them.

 

I suppose I can't really answer. Arranged marriages? Absolutely not. Consensual? Good to have the option.

But in all entirety, I don't really see the point. I know there's legal ties, but aside it's more or less the same relationship.

I also think the whole thing with last names is silly, but that's more of a "straight people thing".

 

I agree with you.

 

Well, it's like this.... I am married, so I guess it's important that I believe in it.

 

My husband totally believes in it... so I guess I should too.

 

I completely believe in marriage but have nothing against those that don't want it.

 

The only complication was waiting for it to be legal. We've been together for almost twenty years but only married for two. As far as the names we hyphenated and both took that last name.

 

I believe in monogamy, pledging yourself to and loving one person. But I find the idea of marriage to be completely laughable. Maybe not traditionally, but at this point in time marriage isnt sacred even to a lot of people that do believe in it. And if they aren't going to take it seriously I see no real reason why I should.

 

I believe in marriage. Currently separated from my spouse because he's gay, and don't think I will ever get re-married, but I do believe in it. What we had was incredibly meaningful for us.

As far as the last name issue, it's not a heterosexual thing, it's an individual thing. We were, by all accounts, a heterosexual couple. We were married in 1996, at 21, and I kept my last name. The kids we have together do have his last name, but one of them is in the process of changing her last name to her original middle name. It's just not that big of a deal to us.

 

I dont believe in it. i think its just a waste of time, the fact that youre married to someone wont stop you or your partner from cheating. My parents divorced 3 times so thats probably the reason why i dont believe in it n dont want to get married.
I do believe in loving someone but just a few papers, signs and a ring wont promise you anything. it depends on your partner and if someone wants get married then i wish them a happy marriage and the best.

 

Not really. I don't believe the whole we will be forever commitment. Just read articles on divorces.

 

I want the marriage, kids and the happy ever after. I also want marriage for the legal reasons. I don't want to have my life partner lying in a hospital bed an be unable to make any of the decisions because we weren't married. I wouldn't want to lose my kids if they were hers and she died. On the other hand I don't want to end up married to a vengeful bitch who will try to take the kids if it doesn't work.

 

When? April 2015.

Why?

Well, I see marriage as a lifelong commitment and the most public way of demonstrating your total love, dedication and devotion to your partner. When I asked my husband to marry me (and I did ask him) I was absolutely certain that he was the one I wanted to spend my life with. We'd already been together for over ten years and during that time he had supported and loved me through some terrible events and personal tragedies and I might not have made it without him. We could have opted for a legally recognised civil partnership a few years before we married, but I always believed that civil partnerships would progress to marriage before very long and so it turned out to be.

I agree with OGS that the biggest complication was waiting for the politicians to make same sex marriage legal. We chose not to have a large ceremony, with all of our family, friends and colleagues present because there were some people who we just didn't wish to invite (not due to our sexuality, just because they piss us off more generally). If we kept it simple with only our nearest and dearest in attendance, nobody could complain of unfair treatment and even if we had family members who were uncomfortable with it, we 'd have done it anyway. We're both past the point of tip-toeing around people who can't get over their issues with same sex relationships.

We kept our own surnames, but only because it would have sounded odd to hyphenate/double-barrel them. If our surnames complimented each other better, I'm sure we'd have done it.

 

I think the most valuable thing about marriage is that it socially legitimates and legally enshrines a sense of togetherness. It's a union which to the eyes of the world doesn't just make a couple two individuals who happen to live together and share bank accounts - it combines two people's identity and life in a way that few other social institutions can. And that's a feeling of acceptance and security worth having.

 

I could see myself getting married someday. But It's going to be hard bc I don't fall in love easily.