Ready but not ready?!!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Alaya35, Aug 8, 2017.

  1. Alaya35

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    I almost came out as bisexual to my husband a few nights ago but then we had an argument and it didn't feel like the right time.
    How do I do this shit??!!
    I feel ready to tell people (I'm 35) but first I have to tell him and that's the hardest part.
     
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    Hi! In my opinion You need to make sure he knows this does not meet you want to split up (unless it does for you) befor you you tell him to avoid any major upset
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    Yeah that's the idea. It doesn't change anything at all. I just need to unburned and be me xx
     
  4. renard

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    I think maybe just aim to tell him in whatever situation you two normally talk about important things, whether that's sitting him down randomly, or bringing it up at the kitchen table, or before bed, etc. It may also help to open with something like "There's something personal I've been dealing with that I want you to know about," so he knows you need to talk about you and aren't trying to say something's wrong with the marriage.

    Hope this helps some. :slight_smile: Good luck!
     
  5. Alaya35

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    Thanks Regards that's a big help :slight_smile:
    I keep thinking today's the day but then there isn't the right moment...