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How old were you and how?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Alaya35, Jul 23, 2017.

  1. Alaya35

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    Pretty much as it says in the title...
    How old were you when you came out and how did it happen?
    Was it a choice or were you outed? X
     
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    I was 14 and it was my choice. I tell my Mom everything, so as soon as I found out myself, she was the first to know.
     
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    I was 26 and it was by choice.
     
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    I came out last year at 47 by my choice.
     
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    26, by choice.
     
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    I was 20 and a half when I first came out to someone important (I'm not counting strangers when drunk). Took up to age 22 to tell everyone
     
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    Thanks for your replies xx
     
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    Lets say 18, and not completely by my choise. I was volunteer in one human rights organisation and I said to much things to my mother and she started to ask too many questions :/
     
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    I came out as bisexual when I was fourteen, maybe fifteen. That was my choice. I came out as trans to my friends around fourteen as well. Never came out about that to my parents.
     
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    Alaya...congratulations! .....Yesterday! I was 65. I came out here on emptyclosets. I did it myself and I was really desperate at the time. A year later I told the first person face-to-face.
     
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    Pretty much immediately the moment it was discovered somewhere around the age of 5 years old.

    I had a HUGE crush on Lucas (Jonathan Brandis) on seaQuest DSV. Apparently it was obvious. My father never let it go from then on.
     
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    18 (I'm freshly out) and it was by choice.
     
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    I was 10 when I truly accepted I was gay it happens because I realized men aroused me and women didn't ever since I've been waiting for the faithful day I get a boyfriend
     
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    I came out to my brothers and parents at 22 and it was my decision. Recently came out publicly to other family and friends earlier this month via Facebook and Instagram, at 23. I was 22 when I fully accepted myself, but I knew I was gay at around 11, maybe earlier than that.
     
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    48 by choice. Waited until dad had passed away. Mom replied "okay".
     
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    31 and still in the process of coming out, including to myself.
     
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    I was 17 and it was not by choice. My mum wanted to talk about boys but I didn't really talk to her so she asked me if I wanted to marry a woman instead. When I said yes her meant-to-be-joke wans't really that funny anymore
     
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    Been telled by mental health worker. It's my choice when to come out gay to family or anyone else when I ready. Said you can do it gradually .
     
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    I "officially" came out to my parents at 14
    I've always been something of a male looking sissy fem so when I did come out to them my Mom simply said, "We've always known that you wouldn't be able to change." and that was that.