Bit of an embarrassing question but I am late bloomer in the world of sex. During my early teen years I was so dysphoric and depressed that I had no libido, and thought I was ace. Boy was I wrong. Thing is, I am not in a place (nor do I want to) have sex with anyone. And other stimuli, like porn, I find boring. But I get incredibly sexually frustrated and don't know how to deal with this? Like, I see someone I'm really attracted to, and everything about them turns me on. Yet I can't do anything about it except try to remind myself to breathe. What do I do?
Maybe you should look at the problem in a different way... You are sexually frustrated, and are attracted to certain people, but you don't want to have sex and porn is boring. Maybe you could focus on why you don't want to have sex, is it related to your dysphoria, or some previous experiences. I guess what I am saying is that if masterbation/porn/and other stimulation isn't doing it, then sex is the alternative but for what ever reason you've ruled this out.