Hiya I found this site by accident while scouring the Internet for answers to the many questions I am asking myself... Sick of living in my own head I thought it was time to *tentatively* reach out and dip my toe in the water?? I don't know where to even begin. I'm 35 and have questioned myself for a few years now. Jeez, I keep typing stuff here and then deleting it!! I guess this is pretty normal? I'm bisexual, I think?!!
I'm good thanks finding my way around the site and trying to figure out where the heck to go from here...?
I think I would like to finally tell people that I am bisexual but I'm not sure. I keep wondering why bother? It's not like it changes anything as I am married. But at the same time it would be a weight off my mind.
We'll stick around here for a while and see what you think. Did you have anyone in mind you'd like to tell first?
Hi Quantum! Silverhalo: I have 2 friends (a couple) who are lesbians, I thought about maybe reaching out to them first for some support/advice?
Being rejected because they don't accept your bisexuality? I would like to hope your lesbian friends wouldn't reject you. It's good to take it one step at a time. I was worried about that before I came out but I have had no negative reactions. I know it's easy for me to say but anyone who no longer wants to be your friend because you are bisexual wasn't a great friend to start with.
Yeah just seeing me differently in a bad way. Obviously they are going to see me differently but I don't want any negativity. I want it to be accepted as a good thing. Am I making any sense? I wouldn't keep hold of any friends that didn't accept it. I guess I have been seen as an ally for years and people know my feelings when it comes to supporting the LGBT community and I am very vocal about acceptance of love in all forms. I just have never actually said it's because I want to be part of that community. Am I rambling??
Don't worry, ramble away. Sometimes getting your thoughts and concerns down on paper can really help. I totally get what you are saying, I was perhaps less of an outspoken ally before I questioned my sexuality but I was always open and accepting and pro LGBT people. When I questioned my sexuality I actually had, not necessarily internalised homophobia but I guess you could call it that, in that it was a bit like oh it's fine for everyone else but how can that be me. I think it was more a state of shock and disbelief rather than not wanting to be gay or having a problem with being gay. I worried my friends, most of which are straight would think I was checking them out and stuff and make the friendships awkward, that was one of my biggest fears but honestly nothing has changed.
Yeah this worries me too. That friends will think I fancy them when in reality that couldn't be further from the truth How long did it take you to come out?
