How to tell my husband AGAIN that I am gay and it not going to go away

Well i certainly wouldn't jump on you for that, I was just interested on what your biggest fear was, because that would be the one which would have to be dealt with you if you wanted to move more in that direction. I think it's totally understandable. Talking to a lawyer to find out where you would stand is a great idea at least that would give you more factual evidence on where you would stand.

 

I talked to two lawyers before asking for a divorce. It's an excellent idea.

 

I think talking to a lawyer is a great idea. I spoke to two before I divorced, one was helpful, the other was just desperate for my business and said any old thing to get that business! In the UK some lawyers offer a free consultation in divorce cases because they net them a lot of money.

Taking action is a good thing, and this is something that will inform you as to what the situation is and then you can make a more informed choice later with the big stuff.

 

I get why you feel the way you do as far as the financial aspects of things. However, just to play devil's advocate, what good do these possessions do you if it comes at the cost of forsaking your basest wants and needs?
Material things come and go, new things can easily be bought again.
Even in the event of divorce, you are very unlikely to walk away "empty handed". And making significantly more than he does, will rebuilding truly be too difficult?
I don't want to come across as "telling you what you should do", just trying to pose a few things to consider.
You sound like you are in a much better position than I was when my ex and I finally called it quits. As I mentioned before, even struggling the way I do, it is more than worth it just to bee able to live freely and not feel like you are selling out what you truly want just to maintain the status quo.

 

Omg, I am so defensive lately. Nobody can say shit to me.

 

We understand don't worry. (*hug*)