Just had sex for the first time HATED IT

Not everyone have a good first time, I guess? Next time, you could try doing sex that doesn't include penetration or maybe relax while receiving?

 

My first time was always really weird.
I didn't feel any pleasure at all, and I was so nervous that everything I did was bad.
Next time try to relax, and if you prefer cuddling, spend more time on it. I also prefer cuddling, so that's what I did in the next time, at some point in the cuddling I was calm enough for the rest, and it went much better than the first one.

 

In a car, near a dumpster, outside a straight bar, in public........nothing about that sounds conducive to a "good" first time experience.
No judgements tho, my only hookup I've done was with some guy off an app and I was a bit inebriated (hence the courage to even do it), and that experience left a lot to be desired as well.
I would say you should definitely try to take steps to plan for a better experience next time. You have to get yourself in a relaxed state as much as possible. Somewhere you're comfortable, maybe some music in the background, things like that.
After my experience, I have decided I have no use for hookups. I'd much rather give myself to someone I have actual feelings for. For me, that's just one aspect in trying to create a better encounter.

 

I hope for your sake that penetrative and boring sex was also protected by a condom.
In my opinion "First Time" and "Random Stranger" are two terms that should NEVER go together if you don't want to hate the experience and yourself afterward.

 

I'm kind of alright with the whole "first time" and "random stranger" thing but the juxtaposition of "first time" and "dumpster" definitely leaves me cold. There was A LOT to this encounter that would be difficult for a seasoned pro to overcome to actually enjoy it. Don't take it as indicative of sex in general... And maybe try a bed next time.

 

My first time was terrible also. I think a lot of peoples are. Really, its best to have sex with someone you know and can be honest with - especially if you are inexperienced.

I didnt have sex for the second time until 5 years after my first. Was much much better the second time around.

 

Wow, next time I would also suggest you try it with someone who's not a horrible person. I'm not really one to say you have to have known someone for months, met their parents and compared favorite muppets to have a rollicking good time in the sack--I've been with my husband for 19 years and we had great sex the night we met--but I really do think in a good fifteen minutes of polite, sober conversation you should be able to tell if someone is capable of uttering that. If they are don't sleep with then.

 

In my own personal experience, it is good to get your first out of the way quite soon, that way sex isnt such a big massive deal and theres no more obsessing over virginity any more.

Personally, I would take this as a win and something to learn from.

 

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Is just my opinion because I am romantic at heart. I would say have you though about joining local gay social group or going to a gay bar. And see if someone catches your eye and if they want to chat for a bit. And if they want to message you on social media and get to know each other. And then if you want to meet for date to getting to see if you get on. Then if you want to become boyfriends. Then you can make love that way in loving relationship.

 

Then find for next time partner who also love cuddling and I suppose it will much better then

 

Good that you took the time to protect yourself so here is something else to ponder
You were acting as the bottom, reluctantly it seems, after a failed attempt at topping your sex partner and you found the experience "Boring" leading me to think you are more inclined to act as the insertive rather than receptive partner.
Next time you hook up, and you probably soon will as the urges tend to become uncontrollable at times, find a better location such as a motel room and plan the experience well so you can act as the top.