This probably gets asked a lot, so sorry. In January I became good friends with someone I go to college with, I barely paid attention to him before then, we got on at work which is good but never really thought about it. I didn't even find him attractive, however since we became friends I have started falling for him where I'm now convinced I am in love with him. I don't know how to deal with this, I'm becoming jealous. To make matters worse, he's having a thing with my other best friend, so when they are together on a more than friend type occasion, I feel jealous and left out to the point of panic attacks. I just wish he liked me Maybe I'm weak, but I really cant deal with it. I'm 21 btw.
The only thing that can get you over a guy/girl/love interest is another guy/girl/love interest. Until that happens you will be soaking in your pain. Get out there and search!
You have two options: tell him and talk about your feelings, or take a break from communicating with him so often and try and find someone you like.
I had the same problem in the fall. I was 21, too, and crushing hard on my straight friend. I just kind of let the feelings ride out. I still think he's cute, but I don't feel like I'm falling in love with him anymore. It probably helped that I recently graduated, and we really haven't talked extensively since December, but I was over him long before that. So I guess my advice is to be realistic about the situation. It's not the dream scenario, but it will help you move on faster.
I am on dating sites, but I can't seem to find anyone Probably not, I would be too worried he would distance. Both are hard. I risk him being distant if I tell him, and if I distance myself then I lose my best friend. Yeah Thanks, I suppose it's hard as I see him a lot, this is good advice.
If you can't get a lot of distance try and keep as much as you can. It's really the only thing that seems to work because it gives you time to get your emotions in check and prevents you reinforcing those feelings for him. Also try and focus on other things if you can. Basically it all comes down to cutting back the feelings (unless you change gourmand and decide to speak to him).
