Why are women attracted to men?

Really the main reason Men and Women are so different is because they are raised to think they are supposed to be different. (And Testosterone and Estrogen of course)
If we treated Men and Women like they are of the same gender we probably would have a hard time telling the difference between their personalities.
So to all of you saying that you've never met a nice man, or that all men are the same, remember that it mostly has to do with how those men were raised, and also remember that not all men are the same...

 

I don't think the question is offensive.

Though, I do think for a lot of people, sexuality is pretty physical. There are a lot of things I hate about the personalities of other women, but my sexuality is hardwired as a physical thing- to like vagina, breasts, curves, estrogen, soft voices. There are a lot of reasons why I prefer the personalities of men, but my sexuality is hardwired to be turned off by penis, testosterone, body hair, rugged type bodies. A lot of straight women are hardwired to like the physical as well, it's something ingrained in us.

 

Well, if men and women don't differ, then tell me why my life looks like it does. Nobody ever raised me like a guy.

 

The Like d***, which i can relate to = Short answer

 

emerry, I never said men and women don't differ, and what I meant by raise someone like a guy or a girl is that women and men are treated differently (once again for obvious reasons) today, and tend to have different personality types because of it.

 

I'm a little late getting into the discussion, but here goes!

What I find attractive in other men are the broad shoulders, the deep voices, and, as others have pointed out, how they're usually very upfront with what they like and don't like.

As for declining physical appearance, I've found that a lot of it comes down to how much time and energy a person is willing to invest into maintaining themselves. This goes for both sexes and happens for many different reasons. I've seen men and women in their 20s look not very flattering because they refuse to practice basic hygiene. I think a lot of that has to do with how they were raised. Then there are older adults who, once they get married and figure they don't have to keep themselves up to attract a partner, just let themselves go (one of my aunts admitted she is guilty of that one).

Still there are some things that our out of our control. For many of us men balding is a fact of life that is irreversible and we just have to live with it (at least we have the option of shaving it all off once it gets to a certain point).

 

omg i totally agree lol

 

LOL I DON'T GET IT EITHER

You know, growing up and trying to fit in, I remember actively trying to figure out what was attractive about a man. What qualified as a "cute" boy? What features was I supposed to like? I knew the stereotype was I was supposed to like muscular men, but knew it was okay not to. And man, muscular men REALLY grossed me out. Wtf do women see in muscular men? Anyway, I settled on thinking a "cute" boy was supposed to have grown out hair(like chin length, like stereotypical a surfer), and maybe tanned or light skin. So my theory was prooven false when my female friends started swooning over the sporty types with really short hair. And I thought, "What? THIS is what cute is supposed to be now? Uh, okay, I guess." I was literally so confused growing up. hahahaha

 

My first post on this forum and I thought it would be fitting to start with this very thread since a huge part of my life has revolved around men; looking at them, observing them, thinking about them, having several profound crushes on them from a distance and even having a handful of real life relationships every now and then. I am AFAB and I am a resounding zero on the Kinsley scale, yet I have never been able to identify with straight women, especially as far as men are concerned… Simply put - I always felt like I was much more into men than the average straight woman and that my reasons for being into them differed a great deal from the heteronormative outlook.


Beauty. I am a highly visual person and have always enjoyed looking at beautiful guys. And when I say beautiful I mean BEAUTIFUL ( look at my avatar for reference; he is a Japanese stage/musical actor and at the moment I can't get enough of him and his beauty) True, beautiful men are a rarity in this world and 95% of men won't make me turn my head, but once in a blue moon I come across one that does and it's like a bolt of lightning to my nerve system LOL When I was young and still in high school, my friends would joke about how I would ”scan” a male face with my eyes and assess my likes and dislikes immediately and in a very detailed manner. Other girls would be content with a guy being ”tall, dark and handsome” and that was as far as they would go in describing their ideal man or some guy in magazine they deemed good-looking. They never had anything to say about the eyebrows, about the lips, about the shape of the eyes or nose and I could never understand that since I immediately latched on to these kind of fascinating details.


Now, to me the face of a beautiful guy is one of the greatest joys ever in this world. On the other hand, I am fairly oblivious about beautiful women. For example, over the years I have had several female friends whom I never thought of as pretty, I never pondered about their looks, only to realize at some point that a lot of people did regard them as attractive. Overall, a pretty girl is a dime in a dozen, to me there’s nothing special about it, and moreover, in the past thirty years I feel like I have been inundated with images of women thanks to the fact that in our Western culture beauty is nearly always being equated with the looks of females. Their bodies are on display in movies, their faces are focused on in close-ups and it always frustrated me because I longed to see men being given that kind of treatement as well… to have their beauty cherished, let the camera lovingly pan over a naked male body, lingering on the neck, on the shoulders, on a lovely flat stomach ( I absolutely can’t stand ”rock hard abs” and I have zero appreciation for them - I prefer a flat, toned belly with pecs that are NOT the result of exessive gym training, just somewhat prominent but still natural looking…) or on the inner thigh which to me is one of the most erotic parts in a male body. One of my many ”fetishes” as far as guys are concerned is the image of a sleeping face. There are few sights lovelier than a pretty guy sleeping, looking a bit childlike, his features smoothed out and not wearing any kind of ’mask’ ( as many men, unfortunately, still feel the need to do as soon as they step out of the door and face the surrounding society.)

Okay, the cock. Yes, I do appreciate cocks. I like looking at nice cocks. They fascinate me, they are fun to play with and I like watching a good-looking guy in shape having his own, err, fun. Even better if two guys are having fun together I have enjoyed gay erotica and love stories between men ever since I was a teen. I could never really get into hetero action, be it in movies, books or in porn. ( Girl-girl action never even entered my mind to be honest, as far as I was concerned it didn't exist. ) An amusing anecdote: back in the late 80s when I was around seventeen my best friend and I discovered Playgirl on the magazine stand. We bought an issue and had fun looking at the naked guys (remember, no internet back then so the sight of a naked man was not exactly available the way it is now...!), but we also kept wondering why their penises were not at all erect. We somehow assumed they would have been because... what's the point otherwise? LOL


Really, I could write about the kind of men I love and things I love about men, and easily turn it into a ten page essay, but to conclude here are a few things I often hear women say that I can’t agree or identify with…


”I love a man in a suit” ( I don’t. A suit is just a plain looking, boxy uniform that hides EVERYTHING. My preference: a fitted, t-shirt or even better, a half-sleeve shirt that leaves the forearms bare because I really, really have a thing for nicely shaped forerams on a man. Also, fairly tight pants that reveal the contours of a small, roundish butt and slender, yet toned tighs. I really don’t like uniforms in general and military uniforms are probably the worst. I can, however, find visual pleasure in a sailor uniform, they tend to make guys look boyish and desirable.)


”I don’t want a boyfriend that is prettier than me” ( Frankly, I couldn’t care less about something like this, if anything I would probably feel proud and lucky to have a boyfriend that kept turning heads while we would be walking on the street. I have always thought like this, even back in the day when I was younger and was considered quite pretty. )


”I want a man that can protect me”
This one always raises my eyebrows, but then again, I come from Finland which is a relatively safe place compared to many places in the US, for example. I don’t know… I have never contemplated on the need to feel protected. From what? I’ve never felt threatened to begin with... On the contrary, I have often found myself harboring protective feelings towards the guys I have loved, cherishing their vulnerability but fearing that this very vulnerability would end up hurting them eventually. (The notion that men are not emotional or sensitive strikes me as pretty ridiculous.)


”I want a man to treat me like a princess”
Yikes, just no… I absolutely do not want to be treated ”like a princess”, I don’t care about men opening doors to me or giving me flowers. None of that matters to me. Just treat me like a human being and like a person you care about, don’t put me on a pedestal… I think of myself as genderqueer and along with everything else that entails something about myself in relation to guys; I want to be considered as one of them, I love joking around with guys the way guys often do. I want to be on a strong friend-basis with a guy I am in love with. Ideally it’s like a bromance that has a sexual aspect to it.

 

You guys I respect your opinions but what you find attractive is not objective!! It sounds like y'all hate the very sight of a male being omg

 

Attraction is subjective. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder.