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coming out to my best friend

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Jess29, Jun 28, 2017.

  1. Jess29

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    Hi.
    I am planning to come out to my best friend tomorrow and i am slightly freaking out inside. i think she will be fien with it. Do you have any advice for me?
     
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    Hi Jess29,

    Well done on taking the step to come out to your friend. Have you come out to anyone else before?

    The best advice I can give is try to keep as calm as you can. That way, you can have the best chance of coming out to your friend without feeling too stressed. The good things are that she's your best friend and you said you think she will be fine about it. So that should help you to feel more reassured about telling her.

    Good luck and let us know how it goes :slight_smile:
     
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    I advise that you stay calm, and know what to say. You could even rehearse if you know you'll have difficulties saying it. It's likely that you'll be the most freaked out of you both, so, just go through with it.
    Oh, and if you know that you may chicken out of it, you can try and set things up so that you can not force yourself out of the conversation (either by announcing that you have something important to say, or by being in a situation where it'd be difficult to go away before you've said it).
    Good luck.
     
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    Perhaps you can text her that you want to discuss something important, so that when you meet and she asks what it is you can just blurt it out :slight_smile:
     
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    I did it. I came out to my best friend. I almost cried doing it, dont know if that was nerves or relief. She said "yay" and gave me a high five.
    I am so glad i have someone know and that is one step on a long road.
     
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    Congratulations Jess29!:thumbsup:That took a lot of courage! I'm very happy that it went so well for you!:slight_smile:
     
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    I'm so glad you had a great first experience with coming out!
     
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    Yay congratulations.