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How could I give a hint to my bicurious friend?

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  1. DarkWhite

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    Hello,

    For past few months I have been strugling with crush on my best friend. I never expected any chances but it looks like she is flirting with me since I came out to her. Unfortunately I suck in relationships in general not to meation love ones. So I have no idea how to make some little hint I'm interested in her because I don't want her to run off with someone else. But I can't be too straightforward either in case she is not serious with me and it would ruin our friendship.

    Help please :/
     
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    Stair her in the eyes and smile, lean in slightly and sit close to her, making sure you touch when you sit by each other. Idk just be suggestive. Female flirting is a little different I would guess so idk how much help I can be.
     
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    Well we always sit close to each other. Unfortunaly I'm naturally a touchy person so touching wouldn't make any difference, also I'm always smiling and have very bad problem with looking people in the eye. Soo yea it's complicated :/
     
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    Hmm. Maybe you should be a little more straight forward. I really doubt she will be too disturbed. If you don't touch people in, well, non-platonic places you could try that first... Like touching upper arms etc when you have no real reason too.
     
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    You could ask her if she's dating anyone. If not, ask her out on a date.
     
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    I think I should be more straightforward but I'm too scared I screw up. Well I'm gonna try it, hope it will work, thanks :slight_smile:

    Well as far as I know she is not dating anyone I think she would tell me if yes. We got to the topic of two us together before but we took it like a joke. I was too scared so I said no, I think she was kinda dissapointed at first because she looked like it but then she agreed and looked okay. And whenever we got to to this topic, still as a joke, I'm getting turned down immediately. Wondering if I screwed up.
     
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    Try to be bolder if the topic of you two comes up again. Also, do things like complimenting her style/fashion or some other personal quirk you find attractive.
     
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    What about asking if there is anyone she likes and seeing how she reacts to that?
     
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    I'm doing that, she always shoves me her new clothes. Thanks for advice :slight_smile:

    Well she keeps talking about how every guy she knows is disgusting so I don't know about it. But I can try, thanks :slight_smile:
     
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    Maybe Show her a music Video with gay Girls in it (Seems to be a Trend at the moment) and say one of the Girls reminds you of her.

    I dont know why I just had this odd little idea.
     
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    Well I think she would consider it very weird. I have no idea how that would help, so sorry but that is not going on the list.
     
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    Hey, at least Mia tried to be creative. I still think your best approach is pretty standard, ask if she has her eye on anyone, guy or girl, and if she responds positively to that then take it a little bit further.
     
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    Yea she did and I appreciate it, I didn't mean to be rude, this is just the way I talk.

    Anyway thanks for the tips but it looks like I'm out of bussines with her. She wants someone else.
     
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    Same situation buddy...
     
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    Hi DarkWhite,

    Sorry to hear that she's into someone else but you did the right thing and at least you know now. Also, despite the outcome, hope it's given you a bit more confidence in approaching things like this. Small comfort but try and make the most of what you've done.

    best wishes
     
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    Hi, actually it was a false alarm. She isn't into someone else and she keeps flirting with me, so it's pretty confusing. And I didn't come out to her in this way. Well thanks for your support anyway.
     
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    Ahh ok. So you're still confused about whether there is more to it than friendliness? Are you thinking of continuing to try and find out or do you think you will let it go for now?
     
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    I think I will continue, because possible prize is too tempting kek. So if you have some tips, please bring it on :slight_smile:
     
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    Lol, well I think the advice others have given you is good. You need to be either direct or indirectly; maybe talk to her about the kind of things you want in a relationship. One thing to think about is this: if you have feelings for her then you will need to tell her about them at some point if you expect her to tell you how she feels. It needs to be mutual - you might think about telling her first and then see her reaction.

    Do you mind explaining why you thought or what gave you the impression she was into someone else?

    Probably the best way to resolve it is the direct way but you need to do what you think is right and what's comfortable for you to do.
     
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    @Barbatus Well because she kept talking about one guy but later I learned that she takes him just as friend.

    We already talked about what would we want in relationship but we are that kind of friends who talks literally about everything. I'd like to tell her but it I'm too scared I will be turned down and it would also ruin our friendship. What is right, I have no idea.