Lesbians and Tampons

I don't mean to make you feel singled out and weird here, but personally, I do not have that problem. Tampons are not supposed to feel like anything.

Maybe the tampons you are using are too big? There are different sizes. Maybe a smaller one would work for you.
If you always feel like that no matter what size you use, pads are an option.
I wouldn't know, but if you have a bad history or something with that sort of thing, you could talk to a therapist. Or talk to one anyways if the problem is purely emotional.

I don't know, can you explain your problem a little more? What is the problem you are having?

 

Most lesbians don't have a problem with some sort of penetration (obviously not from a dick though). Even so, tampons don't really feel like that anyway since you insert them in such a nonsexual way, at least for me.

That said, the only thing that matters is how you personally feel about it, since you're the one using the tampon. I wouldn't worry about it and just use the pad if you're uncomfortable.

 

You could try using a menstrual cup (such as the Diva cup). It collects the blood and you only need to put your fingers in about 0.5cm.

 

I don't really use tampons for this reason. I always use pads, or birth control that removed my periods.

 

Although I now use a menstrual cup I used tampons for many years without concern for the penetration bit. I think because it's such a routine thing it doesn't really have any sexual connotation. If you are really uncomfortable then maybe pads will suit you better.

 

it takes a while to get used to. if you're not bleeding that much, i can understand feeling uncomfortable with having a tampon in for that reason. otherwise, it takes a few months to really get used to it.

i don't wear tampons because my flow is too heavy, it makes me feel stopped up, and bigger sizes don't help.

try other methods! you could also be sensitive to the materials used in tampons? cheaper ones can be much more abrasive. in this case, always is a good brand vs. a no name or inferior brand. also, kotex.

if you can afford it, natural tampons use unbleached cotton, etc. so a lot easier on your bits.

hope that helps!

 

Or don't imagine it like a dick. Imagine it's a tongue or fingers instead? Maybe, it's not the lesbian part but the asexual part of you that's bothered by it? Part of me is lesbian and I don't have a complete aversion to men's parts. They just do nothing for me, as they pump too hard and fast. But a tampon is different, 'cause it stays in one spot and actually feels good for me.

 

yeaaaaaah, it'll take more times. it's a very foreign feeling and then eventually, you stop noticing it. tampons i'd imagine would be super helpful for swimming.

 

I personally don't have this problem, I don't see tampons as sexual. It's not rare for lesbian sex to involve penetration even though its not from a penis.

 

Hmm, I don't have this issue (though I use a cup). Maybe try re-thinking this a little, if you want to use insertables (of course, if you don't care one way or the other, switching to pads is a quick and simple option).

Genitals have a lot of purposes. They aren't only for sex.

Society really jams it down our throat that everything about the female body is only for sex, and for use by men specifically. But that's not true at all.

I mean, vaginas have at least half a dozen purposes that I can think of off the top of my head, and only one of them is sexual. And even then, "sexual" doesn't have to involve a man. It doesn't even have to involve another human being at all.

Also, penetration isn't necessarily male, and isn't solely about the penis. I mean, lots of lesbians use fingers, other objects, etc. There's also self-sex. Men don't have a monopoly on penetration.

I think this is maybe an issue of internalizing the way society reduces the female body to being only for male sexual pleasure, and learning how to let go of those things it's tried to force on you.