I came out to my wife about 9 months ago, went through the initial agony and angst of coming out, got divorced, had a coming out party, and got on with my life. Had a couple of good experiences with guys I met on ****** and Craigslist (they helped me feel sexy and desirable at 60+). Then I met Brian at our local gay guys Wednesday dinner. We went hiking, talked, and found we have much in common. Hiked some more. Spent some nights together. Went camping Memorial Day weekend with lots of naked time together. He's also freshly out, in a divorce process much more challenging than mine. A sweet, sensitive introvert breaking free, just as I was. We decided we are boyfriends. It feels so right. I never would have imagined that before I fully came out. Today I'm so glad I took the risk to come out and accept myself for who I am. Friends have commented on how happy I look and I guess that's true. Coming out is now in my past, and that's a good thing. If you're still questioning, or going through the coming out process, it DOES get better on the other side. Hang in there.
That is an inspiring post! Congrats you've gotten to a happy place in life and I hope it stays that way. I'm curious to hear more about the coming out party you mentioned. Was it literally like invite a bunch of people over and announce to all that you're gay?
Congratulations, and thank you for sharing, showing me and many more that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Giving me hope that i too can find that one special man for me......
Congratulations and thanks for sharing your story about the other side. It's always great to hear people share their victories after the crucible of coming out ride:
Yes, my ex- and I literally invited a bunch of people over to help us mark our divorce with a brief ceremony, followed immediately by a coming out ceremony and then sharing food and drink. Our home was full of affirming, positive energy from our friends -- some gay, some straight, some trans. Both of our sons and their wives were there and my older son led the divorce ceremony. The idea came from my counselor/therapist in one of our sessions several months prior. I thought it felt like a good idea. The ceremonies came from the Unitarians. A web search for "coming out ceremony unitarian" will get you started.
congrats, so happy for you, and very impressed that your ex is so supportive of you. i do wish all our ex's were so. you're a lucky guy. :icon_bigg