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Would you consider yourself relationship material?

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  1. HerRainbow

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    As I've wanted to start dating I often ask myself this question. At the moment I would but with a few tweaks. So would you consider yourself date material? And is there anything you would change about yourself?
     
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    Guess it depends on what the other person is looking for. For the most part yes, I'm loyal, dedicated, and in for the long haul.
     
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    I actually do not, but I hope my girlfriend does.
     
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    No. Not interested until I finish my PhD and I'll be around 34 by that happens. I just don't want children to get in the way and have to stop.
     
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    According to my supervisor at work, I am. I haven't come out to him yet and he's always asking me why I don't have a girlfriend, but he gave that up; that's another story tho. But I do not to some extent, I am much too self-absorbed and care very little about other people unless I have to
     
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    I'd say yes. Appearance-wise, hah. Not my place to say.

    If I love someone, I'll really love them. I don't drop that word around like it's nothing. To love someone, to me, is to want the very best for them. Sometimes, that means letting go. I am willing to do that, and I hope others will do the same for me, and appreciate such a quality in people.

    That is not to say I won't have trouble searching for someone I can actually love like this. But that's another story.

    As for what I would change about myself, I would like to be more emotionally sensitive. I used to be very good at caring for others' feelings. Now, it makes me very uncomfortable. I also do not consider myself very intriguing in terms of hobbies or interests, and unfortunately, I also do not want sex, which may turn out to be a dealbreaker.
     
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    i dunno. im not looking for anything serious more fun atm
     
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    I'm not sure to be honest. I know I have all the traits loyal, caring, honest, loving, attentive etc but I guess the one manor thing I'm missing is confidence.

    Although I do worry about my age as I'd probably want to date a woman who was younger than me as they would be more likely to have similar interests
     
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    No, lol (aside from the fact that I'm somewhat against relationships, period)
     
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    So I've been told. I'm just never in a relationship :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Sadly, no. I think I'd make an excellent boyfriend if someone I liked actually liked me back, but I'm not attractive and I knew I'm too much of an "acquired taste" for that to happen.
     
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    I mean I THINK so. In terms of looks, I'm ok!! For personality, I think so. I really care about how people are feeling... especially people who I'm actually attracted to. So, I guess that's a good thing?
     
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    As others above have said I believe I have some good traits to be a good partner; loving, honest, loyal. But I can see reasons within myself why I doubt if I would be relationship material. I think we can be our own worst critic though. I am currently working towards self-improvement & self-acceptance but its not an easy process. Hopefully when I meet someone we can bring the best out in each other & focus on the good.
     
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    I really think for the most part, I am.
     
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    No. I am too much of a mess right now. I am not confident in my appearance but mainly I have no idea what I'm doing with my life. I need to have more of a solid foundation before I start looking for someone else. Otherwise they would think I'm lazy with no passions.
     
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    Admittedly, depression/anxiety/life has stripped me of some of my passion, but as I develop more I would definitely say so. I'm a hopelessly loyal, romantic, helpful, caring person. Or at least, that's what people tell me.

    If I could find someone who loves athletics, music and history as much as me, who is vegan and willing to fight for people/animal rights, I would probably be happy.

    So yes, I would date myself.
     
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    I don't know that I would get in a relationship with me. Health issues, kids and an ex, new to this whole thing, good looking but way too overweight....I can't see anyone thinking I'm relationship material.
     
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    I can't really say bc I've never had a bf but I don't think I am. I don't want to compromise my life or settle for less.
     
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    I genuinely think that I am a good husband. Frankly, I've always made a good boyfriend/partner/etc.
     
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    Not unless you like the emotionally distanced, fucked up loner type.