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How to re-come out to mom

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by KartoffelWal, May 26, 2017.

  1. KartoffelWal

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    My mom forgot I'm transgender, I think, or at least thought nothing of it. How do I come out to her again?:help:
     
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    She probably knows exactly you're transgender. That's not something people forget easily. Just bring up the topic and talk to her as if she already knows. Because she already knows.

    Edit: is she an accepting mom? Or is she trying to ignore the fact you're trans*? You should definitely talk about that with her
     
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  3. KartoffelWal

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    She's sort of accepting... I talked to her and she remembered. It just seems like she didn't remember because she never uses my name or pronouns. But she doesn't get mad when I bring it up or anything, so she tries to accept me but doesn't want to, if that makes sense...?
     
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    If she doesn't get mad, then maybe you just need to be consistently reminding her when she forgets your name/pronouns.
     
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    Sadly, she most likely that she didn't forget. It may be something she thinks about all the time, and she is just trying to block it out. Instead of re-coming out, possibly suggest getting a gender therapist. Gender therapists are very important. They can help get you started on hormones.
     
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    Resu is correct. The more assertive you are, the clearer the message is. If you don't mention it, your mother may assume that you don't care enough, and that is something you don't want her to believe.