99% of my life I've been physically, sexually and romantically attracted to girls. Im currently in a relationship. I've experienced all the emotions, crushing, fantasizing, ect. Whenever we do anything sexual I'm driven to do more and enjoy getting down on her very much. Just this year I noticed some attraction towards guys (currently 17 years old), I've always been curious despite being attracted to females. Any guy no matter their sexuality can spot a handsome guy, its a given fact but I have yet to crush on a guy (it may or may not happen). But sometimes I feel more sexually drawn to them behind a screen and fantasizing ... In person I spot woman more tho. Its really confusing because masturbating is one thing and approaching is another. I don't see myself in a relationship with a guy and don't get feelings/nervous around them as I do girls but tbh a ONS (one night stand) wouldn't seem so bad. Just letting you know I'm not homophobic or have internalized homophobia, I find no reason to deny my feelings but I just need to make sure of who I am first. Any thoughts or Ideas ? ;-; Btw I am sorry for the shitty grammar / rambling.. I stayed up all night partying and its 11am now xD Peace.
Hi, sometimes it can be for an individual guy. It could be that one guy in particular and only him could do that to you. Another thing is your young age. You could be just going through a little phase. It could be curiousity, but that doesn't stop you from being straight. If your open to a sexual experience with a male, you could always try it. Either way, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
Hey Ginseng n Honey, As I indicted before on your previous thread, it sounds to me like you are just not yet comfortable with your own sexuality. There is nothing wrong with that. We each come to our own understanding and acceptance of our sexuality in our own time. Just go with the flow and be YOU!
What happens when you're masturbating without porn, and just using fantasy in your mind's eye? When you compare doing that when fantasizing about guys, and then doing that when fantasizing about girls, which gives you the stronger level of arousal?
ty ---------- Post added 15th May 2017 at 12:50 AM ---------- Its back and forth, usually I get off more to females but occasionally guys get me off. If I were to put it in a fraction.. guys get me off 3/10 times.
Maybe, Im not entirely worried of not being straight it's just annoying to be confused Im not gonna go to the "its just a phase factor" but thanks for the reply anyway
You practically answered your question with the sentence "I've always been curious despite being attracted to females." I say bi-curious. XD
Then again, doesn't everybody feel curious in the beginning? I thought I was bi-curious for years and it took me until I was 22 to realise I am actually feeling a little more strongly about this than I thought. Ginseng n Honey, I totally understand the feeling of being annoyed because you're confused. The feeling of "I wouldn't even mind if I was bi, but am I really though?" For me it just kind of felt like I wanted to have something to identify with, I know labels don't matter, but when you don't have one and you always thought you did they can feel a little bit like a harbour. Can you identify with the word "questioning"? Maybe it could take some of the pressure off. Unfortunately we usually don't find out exactly who we are deep down in a day and it might take some time and patience and experience to find out what feels good to you. But it doesn't devaluate your feelings, neither does it pressure you to rush into something that you're not sure about. How long have you been in your relationship? Can you talk to your girlfriend about your feelings? - Mia
thank you for your response, Ive been with her for 6 months and talked to her about it around a week ago. She was supportive about it and said that she was always available to talk if or when I figured things out.
I feel like it's an enormous disservice to tell someone 17 that they're "going through a little phase" or to imply they are "too young to know". If 3 out of 10 times you're masturbating to men, then it's appears likely you aren't totally straight. What remains to be seen here is whether the 3/10 is because you're just toward the straight end of the bisexual spectrum, or whether you are at some level rejecting the idea that you might be closer to the gay end of the spectrum. That can be hard to discern. It isn't uncommon for guys to be bisexual but mostly on the straight side. It also isn't uncommon for people, in the early stages of their process of understanding themselves, to have difficulty allowing themselves to truly get in touch with their same-sex sexual attraction. In these cases, as you allow yourself to go with that, it tends to open up and the awareness and same-sex attraction feelings will start to come out more. (This doesn't mean that by not exploring it that it will go away, only that it will stay around and pop up later, more strongly... so better to deal with it now and find out where things are.) The long and short is... you may not get a clear answer right away, so the "questioning" label, if you need a label at all, could perhaps give you comfort. If you want to explore the same-sex feelings more, you could try masturbating and solely thinking about guys for a few days, then switch back to thinking about girls, and see how you respond to each of the different fantasies. Usually, as you allow yourself the freedom to delve into the fantasies and feelings, it becomes clearer pretty quickly where you stand on the spectrum. If you decide to do that, check back in and let us know what you experience. I hope that helps!
Chip on your masterbation test I have a question. If you get natural arousal by one gender and not the other without any stimulation surely that's better guide to your natural orientation as it doesn't get clouded by the fact the you are stimulating yourself with friction?
