Hi all lesbians and bi girls there! How to hit on a girl/woman when you are a girl? :/ I'm lipstick/chapstick type, and I'm into lipstick type. Beside that it is a pain in the ass to recognize a lipstick lesbian :eusa_doh:, how to hit on her? How to move on without scaring the girl away if she is straight? Well, what to do? Heeelp!!! :rolle:
I usually just keep it casual- trying to act like normal acquaintances by asking them basic questions. Then it can eventually progress. Women hate when strangers of even their preferred gender ask them out, so I've found that taking conversations a bit slow helps (as long as it isn't too slow). That also gives me time to figure out their sexuality first.
This woman has a slew of videos with lots of good advice. You might find some tips here. Ask Dr. Frankie: Lesbian Love & Relationship Expert
I'm so bad at flirting that I probably shouldn't be giving advice on this topic, but this is why online dating is so essential for me. You don't have to try to work out anyone's orientation.
I'm very direct and I don't sugar-coat. When I put my mind into it, I just come out with it. I get to know a lot about them first though, I don't just pick any girl. I want our relationship to be special and I want us to be very intimate and any questions we are asked about each other can be answered. I want to be in tune both emotionally, mentally, and intellectually. Never to take advantage of that. My relationships last very long because of that, and I'm not always in a relationship. We never argue. We're basically so in tune both intellectually and emotionally, we have no problems, no conflicts. You know when you ask someone what they want to eat? I don't even need to, it just surprises and amazes her how I know what she wants to eat every time she wants something. Including me. Hehe.^-^ If there's something that draws me to them, I'm not casual about it, I just come out with it. Then, there's no room for betrayal, or mind games to be played with me. I don't want to take time to get interested in a woman and get serious with her, and then she says somewhere in the middle "I'm sorry, I wasn't supposed to fall for you, I've never even questioned my sexuality". They like my direct behavior, and they like the fact that I take control. But sometimes, I have my "femme" days with lots of mascara, eyeliner, lip gloss, nail polish, high heels, etc, and sometimes I have my "butch" with styles like Lea DeLaria's. Sometimes I want a ponytail, sometimes I want a mohawk or a hairstyle like Ruby Rose's. There's no sure way to see if a girl is a lesbian, but I wear a thumb ring. It lets other lesbians or bisexuals know I am a lesbian, depending on if they know what the symbol of a thumb ring is.