He's up to his old tricks again...I just bet he never stopped doing it. My husband is 63 and I am 50. He is currently in rehab following hip surgery. I was posting his picture on Facebook asking for prayers, good thoughts for him, etc. He got a huge response, which was great. The picture I used wasn't that good, but since my other computer crashed I didn't have much choice. He told me to go on his computer and e-mail myself some pictures of him so I could have them. (Uh oh....do you see it coming??) So I fired up his computer and finally found where he kept his pictures. Lots of porn, but I don't care about that. BUT...there were FORTY pictures of a woman named Kendra. Not dirty pictures in any way, just regular, smiling pictures. He's been talking to someone...possibly has an online relationship. Before I knew him, he was kind of addicted to dating sites. He even looked at them when we were newly married!! So, these pictures of Kendra are recent...and there are so many of them, so something is going on. I know I'm nothing great, but him being disabled for years, I do EVERYTHING for him - even putting my own sexuality on hold for him!!! I am so disappointed. :icon_sad:
Maybe this is a sign that you should break free. You have obviously put him first for too long and sacrificed so much in the process. You are a wonderful human being and you deserve better.
Dont put yourself down, there is no excuse for cheating. He made a commitment to you. Have you confronted him about it?
Thanks, NerdbyNature. Silverhalo, I haven't confronted him yet because he is in rehab and I haven't heard from him today, and I don't want to call him. I have my kids for the weekend, and I don't want them to see me upset either....but it's going to come out anyway. I checked out this chick on Facebook and they are mutual friends. She has lots of pictures on her page, but not like the 40 he has. I couldn't figure out where they were chatting - I'm not that comp savvy. I found his second e-mail, but there was nothing on there (unless he deleted it all before leaving for the hospital). I wasn't good enough for my first husband, I guess I'm not good enough for my second one either - even though I am sacrificing everything to be with and take care of him.
You have to think better of yourself. Nobody deserves to be cheated on. I think it is a good idea to try and enjoy your weekend and deal with it later. He could have deleted the emails but he didnt hide the photos so you would think it was unlikely. They could have been talking on facebook.
Maybe you just have bad taste in men and need to find a lovely woman to help you recognise how amazing you are.
Firstly, I am very sorry that you are going through this. Do you know he has gotten physical with these women? Some men like attention through chatting, but never actually make it physical. It's all fantasy. It's not that you're not good enough. It seems to me that you are too good. Being a man myself, I know how men think. It is easier to seperate sex from emotion. I am sure he loves you all the same, he is just being greedy. I am not making excuses for him, because I'd feel just as hurt as you do. I would definitely confront him and threaten him with whatever scares him, whether it be leaving him or staying with him and dating other people or plain old doing nothing for him. Do nothing so he can appreciate just how much you have sacrificed. Do not let it slide. My thoughts are with you and I hope everything works out. Xx
Two questions, just in case. First, for how long have you two been dating/married? And second, did you check the dates on those pictures? He may have had them for a really long time, and if they were "hidden" deep into some folder, he might as well have forgotten they exist. Don't just jump to conclusions without the full picture.