After a year of searching and waiting for "The One," I finally arrived at a place where I accepted casual sex as a viable option and finally, went through with it. It was certainly a learning experience and although I prob won't continue this casual relationship, I'm glad I went through with it.
Awww my original post got removed. Oh well. It's up on a forum for bisexual woman, called Shybi. Anyhoo, it was cool for what it was...a hook-up. I def enjoyed it and can imagine being wrapped up in the arms of the woman I love for hours.
Why would they delete that. It was lovely to hear that after all this time something so positive happened for you and that you had this magical moment. It gives me a sense that if you want something bad enough you simply have to just go for it. Best get your self back to that restaurant now. Perhaps with this under your belt you may give off some stronger vibes to the waitress??? xXx
My goodness, everyone has told me the same thing...to hurry back up and go ask the waitress out now that I've gained some confidence. It's a sign! Lol
From reading the deleted post it defo sounds like you have some confidence... good for you xXx How are you feeling now? Does it feel like you have taken a giant step forward and was it how you expected it to be? It is so hard isn't it? How do you distinguish an interested smile from just a normal smile? I'm not at the 'go for it stage' yet, but I think about this all the time. I am hoping that I can establish a new friend group from attending some lesbian meetup groups. See how it goes from there. It's all such new territory isn't it?
Liked the long story, I got a few pointers. ;-) But -- although this is not a soap opera -- YES we are all waiting to hear about the waitress. When I come to EC I think to myself "Oh let this be a positive story." Yours was. Keep going!
as above post touched on its great to read a possitive story. i dont know how many times i log on to the net and read first time stories not being what they wanted and full of regret. Congratulations on being brave enough to get out there and i am happy for u it went well. people dwell on the bad experences and not the good ones, i am glad u can look back on this and its positive
Lol, thank you, all of you. Your support is much appreciated!! As far as how I'm feeling, I'm happy I went through with it. I had waited a year to find "The One" and make love to her, but the one woman I did have very strong feelings for, well, it ended. I finally came to the conclusion that I could have sex with w/a woman that I didn't feel over the moon about and it kinda alleviated the pressure of it. Kinda took the steam out of the pressure cooker, so to speak. I almost feel like it's weight lifted off of my shoulders. With this particular woman, the first time we were together (alone in a car at a drive-in movie theater), I tried to pleasure her with my fingers and couldn't get her to orgasm, so there was pressure- at least I felt there was- to get her there this time. I was more than satisfied to get her there twice and have her fall asleep because she was so tired. I am def planning on asking the waitress out and I admit, I have no idea if she has the same feelings for me. Gaining the courage to even ask her out seems like a monumental win for me and will garner some more experience in that department. I was talking to another waitress over this past weekend and she told me, "I get hit on a lot by men. Sometimes they leave their number on the table, sometimes they hand it to me in my hand, but I'm in a relationship so I can't accept it either way, but they don't know that unless they try." I admire men who can just leave their number and not wonder if it'll be accepted, after the fact. I'm enjoying having a crush on someone, but once I give her my number, I'm going to have to ground myself in reality because I don't want to give myself false hope if she isn't into women. But asking her out is def on the calendar, so to speak.