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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by aquarius12, Apr 4, 2017.

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    Hi sorry to bother you but i have a problem and i was wondering if anyone can help the thing is
    Okay I'm a nearly 18 year old male and I'm in a bit of a pickle when i was 13 i noticed i was attracted to guys and I'm 17 now I'm I'm scared i don't know who i am anymore. I noticed guys more when i was around 13 it made m happy and feel right it made me feel that's who i am and I'm 17 now and i don't know anymore i feel like my attraction is fading and that I'm turning straight and I'm scared i don't know who i am I still like guys and there body's and cocks but I'm scared that's going to fade and somebody said it doesn't matter what porn you watch or what you think about I'm just scared I'm going straight.okay well i haven't had sex or anything yet but i remember at 13 looking at pon and focusing more on the guys and there cocks and that made me feel like me that it was right and i just loved the feelings. I dont feel like im not gay but i dont feel like i did back then and i dont get excited about vaginas to me its just ahole and boobs are bobs they dont get me excited and i have seen straight porn but i dont get into it when wanking like it doesn't peak my interest but i'm getting thoughts and images in my head of women and i dont want them like i have no desire to date them or have sex with them is this happening becuase im watching straight porn like im very open minded but i'm scared i'm turning straight. ANY HELP PLEASE. Also sacred people say i might be Bisex but i don't want to lose interest and forget guys. And like today i thought i have always like guys and i dont see myself having sex or dating girls I'm just so stressed and confused like my Brian's fuzzy
     
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    Take a deep breath , u can't force who or what u are . We are born the way we are born and our sexuality does go through many phases . No reason to be scared u are just trying to understand it some . It sounds like u would benefit from a therapist who specializes in gay affirming . He can help u get insifenur heart and soul to open up and release ur walls and open ur windows . Not as easy as black and white but once it becomes clear it is Awesoms
     
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    Thank you for your advice but I've identified being gay since 13 and these problems have been happening for a week so I'm just stressing if I'm turning straight?
     
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    Have you given any thought you you may be suffering from OCD? Sounds to me as if you are gay and are fearing being straight, and you have a lot of anxiety about this. What will be will be but i get the impression this is about anxiety and not orientation. Do you have any other thoughts that are causing you anxiety?
     
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    Well let me tell u this u don't turn anything , being gay is who u are and part of ur DNA that won't go away . The choices we make are the ones that are individual. For example I been married long time with three kids in 20's. , I ha e been exploring sex with guys for 7 years and wife confronted me vecUae she found out which in turn let me open up to her about my attraction etc , I do not identify as gay at all, if looking for simple explanation it would be bisexual, but through all of this I CHOSE to stay with my wife and made co scious choice to do that . Doesn't mean my attraction to guys goes away but my actions won't be with gu. I will never ever be totally straight period and I am fine with that hat and my wife accepts me for who I am too
     
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    What do you mean like I've had thoughts about being a killer being trans rape murder being sick i worry about slot of things
     
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    I've had thoughts similar to John's like being trans being a murderer hurting people and myself I've also had thoughts about eating disorders and throwing up
     
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    It is a feature of some people's OCD that they worry about being a different orientation to the one they are. its based around anxiety. If you are having these other worries then it all could be a symptom of Obsessive compulsive disorder, which is an anxiety disorder and revolves around fear. It can cause people who are straight to worry they are gay and people who are to worry that they are straight. I ask about other worries as its normal for people to obsess on a number of different matters along with sexuality. Jhon and aquarius are you the same person?
     
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    I am my own person i don't know who John is so would you say i above OCD
     
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    Aquarius, i don't know you would need to be assessed by a mental health professional. I'd suggest going to your GP in the first instance and they maybe able to offer some advice.
     
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    Okay but I'm not turning straight like it's not going to happen is it
     
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    Generally the theory is that people don't change sexual orientation. So if you've been gay and comfortable with it you ain't gonna change. Ask yourself this. What gives me a hardon, girls or guys? But me telling your your sexuality isn't going to help, in fact it's counterproductive as you are seeking reassurance. You need to first of all relax as do what you can to chill out. Anxiety can be controlled through practicing meditation and exercise. Do healthy things and go
    Speak to your doctor. You Might want to check out some OCD websites which can give some guidance as to what to say to the doctor.
     
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    Well from 13 i did watch a little straight porn but i always looked at the guys and there bits i don't focus on the girls or there bits guys get me hard but when i do watch straight porn i get a little hard but it doesn't go up and this scared me
     
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    You're gay. Your sexuality isn't changing.
     
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