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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by OED27x, Mar 30, 2017.

  1. Nickw

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    I'm a 6 or a 0. It depends on the person I am with!

    Not really joking around here. I am SO attracted to some guys and SO attracted to some women that it is hard to put a number on it! Anyone else feel this way?
     
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    Yes! I feel ya!
     
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    I've pretty much always liked both, all the time. We're all unique, but that's me. Bi and proud!
     
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    I've pretty much always liked both, all the time. We're all unique, but that's me. Bi and proud!
     
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    I keep getting a 3, but I wondered how accurate it is. The test seems to assume you don't have any scruples about having sexual experience with whomever you feel like, and that's just not the case for me. It seems like some of the questions you could only answer if you acted on your feelings all or most of the time.
     
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    One test put me at a 5, and the other put me at a 6. My opinion of myself leans more toward the 6, though. :slight_smile:
     
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    My feeling is that it's not supposed to be super accurate. Rather it gives a general idea of your sexual and romantic attractions. I had a friend that kept insisting you couldn't be bi or gay if you were having sex with the other sex. I kept telling her I really felt like I was bi. This conversation repeated over and over. In the end, I don't agree with her. If you are bi or gay or not straight or whatever orientation you use, I think you are it, whether you act on it or not. Do you feel like that?
     
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    Both tests said they couldn't place me anywhere on the scale. Both said I was non sexual.
     
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    4, but I think thats because Ive been with men in the past and a certain degree of denial that I continue to struggle with.
     
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    i just did 2 different kinsey type tests, one i've done before and they both came in at 2 predominately hetro but more than insistently homosexual. this is the first time ive done it from the point of view of being female and not the male gender assigned at birth. id always been a 3 before.
     
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    Interesting. Do you have any insight on what that could mean?
     
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    possibly the tests have a built in bias where a woman who is predominately attracted to males, must be mostly hetro where as a male in the same boat would be mostly bi?

    ---------- Post added 4th Apr 2017 at 12:00 AM ----------

    lol, just did it from the point of male, and came out a 4. answered the questions the same. go figure.
     
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    I got a 4 on the Buzzfedd one, but I don't think that's very accurate.
    On another one, I got 0??? But I do have an interest in women!
    On the last one I got "unidentifiable". Your mark on the Kinsey scale really does depend on which website you go to and the questions you receive. On each website, almost all the questions were different.
     
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    Honestly, the tests themselves aren't even 100% accurate. I just choose the label myself based on what's more fitting. The tests themselves ask some pretty stupid questions, like how submissive you are (doesn't have much to do with sexuality). I've scored asexual before because I didn't like the idea of a threesome with two girls and I wouldn't like a random girl grabbing my ass. That doesn't make me a different sexuality, just means I'm more conservative with these things.

    I self-label as a 6, although I feel It's less common for women to be a 6 or 0. I'm a weird case of a woman that has an extremely rigid sexuality, I guess. I mean I've seen other lesbians who have slept with men in the past (and even enjoyed it), find some men hot, and would make exceptions if they fell in love with the right guy. I've never experienced those feelings and don't relate to them at all. I HAVE seen men with wonderful personalities that I was attached to- but if I try to imagine myself dating/sleeping with these wonderful men, It is a massive turn-off.
     
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    No kidding. What was in Kinsey's mind with the submissive questions? What I theorize is as a Hetero woman you would expect to like the submissive role more? As a hetero male you would like the domination role more. The more you deviate from these 'norms' the more likely you are to slide on down the scale.

    As a bi woman it is totally confusing because I HATE the idea of being submissive, but if you've ever been with men, sometimes a really dominant man and a really good 'f&$@' is pretty damned good too. Sorry to be graphic, but I think it's the concept of the 'penetrator' versus the 'penetratee'.
     
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    And the sad thing is that I have known kinsey 0 women that were almost exclusively dominant. They hated the submissive role and found it degrading (most were into BDSM kink as dommes). But I would have a hard time labeling them as lower on the scale since they were so dick-obsessed and completely replused by even touching other women in some situations, despite being dominant only

    I think the penetration = submissive is a huge misconception as well, as I have seen PIV happen in femdom situations too. In these cases, the woman spanks the guy, chokes him, calls him awful names and punishes him if he doesn't follow orders. So it really depends on the situation.

    Heterosexual women are more likely to be submissive, but the ones who aren't feel really out of place and rejected in their community, which is probably why they identify more with queer politics.
     
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    Started out 5, then moved to 6, that did not fit, went back to 5. I'm solid at 5.
     
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    I tried it a couple times before and I got 2s, 3s, and 4s
     
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    I got a 4. I think it's true that they really only provide an idea. I think I will be self-defining for a long time to come. This is a process. I believe I surpressed a whole lot because of how I was raised, even down to the career path I chose (who would have a career path that can prosecute you for being gay? Me. :frowning2: )

    Anyway, for the moment, 4 seems pretty accurate. I honestly thought that if my girl relationship ended I would go back to men. I actually tried and it didn't feel right at all.

    Again, I'm a work in progress.

    As far as lesbians and their feelings for bisexuals. Well, I think it is an individual character thing, but there is something to that prejudice. Again, people are people, and most are better than that, but it is something you will probably encounter.