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Anyone hate talking about their sexuality?

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  1. Tre

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    I just hate the way people react when I come out to them. So I avoid it. Even if I don't care about them finding out.
     
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    Yes, I do. Especially if I don't know you.

    I feel comfortable talking about it with my best friend as she understands and doesn't say ignorant bullshit that I get sick of correctly.

    I also sometimes get uncomfortable when straight women go on and on about their love life, sex life, and crushes, because then they want 'juicy stories' in return. The fear of being outed is strong, man...
     
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    no i dont. i like talking about it
     
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    Depends on who I'm talking to.
     
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    Girl, I totally get you. I feel the same.

    Which is funny, because some people who do know have tried to claim I'm doing it for attention, even though I never talk about it???
     
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    Sometimes.
     
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    It depends on the person. If it's some bigot I'm talking to then I won't waste my time discussing it with them, only for them to beat me down with their bullshit.

    Among other people, I wouldn't mind talking about it if it means I can talk somebody out of myths and stereotypes. But if they harass me about my tastes and preferences for their own curiosity, I tell them to back off as I'm not ok with that.
     
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    I feel uncomfortable when people ask me very personal questions. However, if we have talked about it before, I am usually a bit more keen on talking about who I like. It's just that I treat like anyone else would, and I try to not make a big deal out of it. :slight_smile:
     
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    having kept my secret for so long now when I tell people I am gay I say ask me anything you want to know about being gay just make sure you want to know the answer. Never had anyone ask anything.
     
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    It depends, but honestly it is both fear and negative reactions is why I haven't told anyone in my family yet. My dad hasn't really reacted well to anything LGBT related.
     
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    Yeah, only because I don't want everyone to make a big deal about it :/
     
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    Unless it's a specific place like here then yeah. Having to explain what mine even is and how being trans has nothing to do with said sexuality or who's attracted to me is tiring. Don't get me started on the people who try to "figure out" my "true" sexuality by asking what's in my pants. A strangers common decency typically flies out the window when it comes to a trans persons sexuality. Now I just mention my partner and am vague on any details until they become frustrated and quit asking.
     
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    Depends on who I'm talking to. I hate talking about it with my parents but it's a normal topic among my friends.
     
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    No, not particularly.
     
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    Hello,

    I am pretty open about talking about it unless I know I'm going to get backlash. It's never something I talk about a lot though, unless it's with my friends and I'm talking about a girl I like or something, but they're all LGBT+ as well so they understand. I hate holding in my feelings, which may be my downfall someday (if it hasn't happened already--I lost one of my closest friends this week because I wouldn't stop talking about my feelings).

    Bee
     
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    THIS. Exactly, i get anxious when straight woman coworkers talk about their love life because they expect a story or some sort of sharing in return. And because i didn't figure out i was a very repressed gay girl until age 25...i've never dated anybody. So there's nothing to share. And i'm not coming out to random coworkers. There's literally 1 person i would be only a little anxious accidentally coming out to and that's only cause he acts like the gay stereotype and i thought i heard him mention a boy on more than one occasion. But even then i'd be anxious cause he's just my supervisor, there's no working friendship there, and i don't know him well enough to know if he'd tell his supervisor friends or not.
     
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    I'm uncomfortable coming out to someone. When I'm out to someone I've no problem talking about it
     
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    What do you do in those situations? Do you just ignore or change the subject?

    I get really anxious about coming out to straight girls. I'm fine with it if we've gotten to know each other and are really good friends as I usually know their opinions on homosexuality. However, without knowing it can go bad for two reasons- They either get really homophobic and grossed out, or they end up being one of those "curious" girls that think I'm a free ticket experiment to them. Ugh.
     
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    Not really. It depends on the individual. If I'm talking to a person who is more judgmental and mean, that would probably be a problem.